sexting tips

Psst! Want some sexting tips to spice things up with the person you like? Of course, you do.

I get it – sexting is tricky. First of all, you’re not always sure that the other person will reciprocate. Secondly, what if you’re just plain rubbish at sexting and sound like an idiot? Or, worse still, creepy?!

It shouldn’t happen because you’re neither of those things. The problem is, however, that sexting is such a minefield that it’s very easy for even the most normal person to come across as a bit, well, weird, and very unsexy. Instead of turning them on, your clumsy sexting could cause them to block you!

That wasn’t meant to happen. Instead, ramp things up a bit, turn up the heat and get them a bit hot and bothered. Get that animalistic sexual tension simmering.

The thing with sexting is that it’s not that hard once you’ve learned a few basic texting tips and rules. It’s way easier than talking dirty in person because you can edit your texts before sending them and make sure everything is right. So, let’s take a look at how to create some sexual tension via phone with some red-hot sexting tips.

Sexting is such a minefield that it’s very easy to come across as a bit, well, weird and very unsexy. Click To Tweet

1. Refer back to something you guys did

Let’s say you’ve slept with them once so far. Referring back to it a few times is a bit weird and makes it sound like you’ve never had sex before. So you’ve gotta play it cool with this one.

Just casually – but sexily – refer back to a night of passion you guys had recently.

“Remember last night? I’m still tingling.”

If you’ve not yet had sex but kissed, you could say something like this:

“That kiss left me wanting more…”

If you’ve neither had sex nor kissed, you could say something like this:

“It felt good when your body was close to mine last night.”

2. Go into detail about what you want to do to them

You literally can’t beat a full-on description of what you want to do to them.

It sure as heck beats, “I’d love to have sex with you.”

Go into proper detail about what you want to do to them. Make sure to use steamy words like pleasure, naughty and such.

Write the sext as though you were writing a story.

Don’t hold back. If you want to get them all hot and excited, you need to go into detail. Create a very vivid picture in their head of what you’ll do when you see them.

Write the sext as though you were writing a story. Click To Tweet

3. Talk about a hot dream you just had

“I just woke up from the hottest dream. I can’t breathe. Wow. That was intense.”

This will instantly catch their attention and they’ll want to know more – so give them more.

Describe your dream to them. The description of it will turn them on – and so will the fact that you’ve been dreaming about them.

Even if you didn’t actually dream about them, you can still use this text anyway. It’s a great way to build sexual tension and it allows you to go a bit wild with your imagination.

After all, anything can happen in dreams, right?

4. Plan a date

Yup, you’re going to plan a date. You’re going to go into the exact details.

First, you’ll meet up for ice cream and go for a stroll in the sun. Then maybe you’ll grab a coffee before going for a meal at your favorite restaurant. You’ll have some great food, some great wine, and some laughs.

And then you’re going to take them home and… Best date night ever? I think so!

5. Send a suggestive photo

Before going the whole nine yards with a full-on nude, play the game a bit and indulge in some sexting foreplay with a suggestive photo.

If you’re a woman, this could be a shot of your legs in sexy heels. If you’re a guy, it could be a pic of you wearing a towel fresh from the shower.

If you decide to send full-on nudes at some point make sure they’re going to be well received, meaning discuss it in person before “going there”.

Before going the whole nine yards with a full-on nude, play the game a bit and indulge in some sexting foreplay. Click To Tweet

6. Avoid emojis

I can’t put my finger on it, but emojis just don’t work when it comes to sexting. They just kill the mood dead.

Imagine it: you’ve just told them about your hot dream; you included details about how you made love in the shower… but you ended the text with a kiss-face emoji.

Not cool at all. Avoid.

7. Never send nudes that weren’t asked for

Lastly, never send unsolicited nudes. Ever. This is a rule that shouldn’t be broken. Even if they were digging you and clearly liked you, an unsolicited nude can kill the attraction.

And, no, a line like this won’t cut it:

“Haha, I totally forgot I was naked when I took that pic. Oops. My bad!”

Awful! Especially if you haven’t even met yet, save the nudes for now.

All in all, sexting isn’t that hard. Just ask yourself the question: what would you find hot? And what would totally turn you off?

Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through flirty texting. To read more by Claudia, visit Text Weapon. Don't forget to signup for the free Texting Club trial with over 300 messages. You can also hit her up on Twitter.

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