christian dating advice

When I was a young girl, an older lady who my family had met at church told me that God created a partner for everyone. Years later as an adult and the owner of three dating websites, including a site for Christian singles, I have come to realize that God truly does have a partner designed for each person. And, while I do believe in soulmates, I have never subscribed to the belief that there is only one soulmate for each person. I think that some people are meant to be with the same person for the rest of their lives, while other people are meant to have more than one soulmate in their lifetimes.

A love soulmate is someone who makes a significant impact on your life; that person is someone who you will share emotional and physical experiences with regardless of what is going on in your life. Nothing can stop that kind of intense love. The only thing is where will you find your second half? The Bible is full of truth and wisdom, but it doesn’t provide guidance as to where to find a faith-filled mate. Here I will give you some Christian dating advice that will hopefully help you meeting your true soulmate.

Christian social groups for singles

You can’t rely on your church congregation to be your source for scouting Christian singles. If your church has a demographic of mainly married couples, your opportunities for meeting eligible singles there will be slim. I know many Christians who are so attached to their churches that they wouldn’t dream of visiting other churches in their local areas from time to time, but I think it’s very beneficial to visit other congregations.

There might be other churches in your neighbourhood that have singles ministries. Attending singles events at other churches will lead to opportunities to form new relationships and friendships. My church that I attend doesn’t have a singles ministry, but I’ve participated in the singles ministries of my friends’ churches, and they were fun times! When you are willing to participate in Christian events that are open to Christians of all denominations, you will increase your chances of finding God’s mate for you or at least get some Christian dating advice from others.

Christian dating websites

I know several people who have met their current spouses on Christian dating websites, and if they could find success then you could definitely find success with online Christian dating communities for your own relationship mission. With a Christian dating site you know that it’s created to believers. You won’t really have to ask someone you meet on the site what is their religion, because they are Christian and their denomination will most likely be listed on their member profile details. A niche dating site helps singles to focus on their main dating goals and connect quickly with people who are like-minded.

Despite the popularity of mainstream dating sites that market to everyone, a niche Christian dating website would make more sense for you to join if your primary goal is to find a Christian partner. Why should you waste time on websites meeting singles who don’t care about faith when you could meet someone who is as steeped in their faith in God as you are? You have probably heard the saying “the family that prays together stays together.” I have found it to be true that when a family has Christ as the centered focus of their home, they function as a happy and spiritually blessed unit. I have also seen it the other way around; when Christ was not the center of families, dysfunction and strife tended to take over. A Christ centered home isn’t necessarily a family that attends church; a Christ centered home is one in which the family seeks Christ’s guidance on everything and makes it a point to lead healthy and faith focused lives.

Christian conferences and witnessing opportunities

One of the wonderful things about Christianity is that it’s supposed to be shared. Jesus commanded believers to go and spread the gospel to everyone in every nation, and many Christians create opportunities to publicly share their personal testimonies with the world. Witnessing to Christians and to non-believers can lead to intense connections and growth in your faith as well as the faith of people who you encounter.

When you testify about what God has done for you, you are opening a door to others. People who are moved by what you’ve shared will want to develop a relationship with you, and relationships can often lead to more connections and eventually, a soulmate connection. After all, life is more about who you know and not what you know. I truly believe that we become like the five people we spend the most time with.  I have benefited from nepotism and it’s a lovely feeling knowing that your friends and family have opened doors for you. When that happens, it feels like things are “meant to be.” When you network with other Christians and develop bonds with them, you’re bound to meet people who can give you Christian dating advice or even know the “perfect person” for you to connect with. They will do everything in their power to set you up with that person.

Take heart and remember that if something is worth having, then it is worth working for, and that includes relationships. God promises to feed the birds, but He does not throw worms into a bird’s nest. It is up to every creature to get out of their comfort zones and pursue what they want. If you want a Christian partner, you need to design a life that will attract a Christian mate to you. When you pray and ask the Lord to help you find a Christian soulmate, you also need to do your part and prepare yourself for the type of relationship that you are praying for.

Akua is a Canadian born and raised girl with Caribbean roots. She is a journalist, actress, music teacher, performer, owner and marketer of 3 worldwide dating websites, as well as an independent Pure Romance business owner selling passion products for singles and couples.

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