how to attract men sexually

If you are thinking that the only way to attract men sexually is through your looks, then you are probably not attracting the right kind of men. Perhaps, you never end up with the man that you truly want, and you are tired of putting yourself out there and not being fully met. Or you are wondering where all the good men are?

What I am about to share with you might come as a surprise, but be open-minded. Trust me, my goal is to help you attract higher-caliber men. You know, the kind that you can have a long-term committed relationship with. The type where you have a deep emotional connection and intimacy.

Here are 5 techniques on how to attract men sexually, that will help you to get the attention of the right kind of guys and nurture hot passionate relationships. Are you ready?

1. Don’t censor yourself

I’m a firm believer in the power of positive thinking and visualization. Throw away any personal mental images of flirting as something aggressive, sleazy, or needy, and start thinking of flirting as a positive interaction that makes people feel good (yourself included). Start picturing yourself flirting with ease and flow with the men in your life or the man you are meeting for the first time.

Next, think about the kind of man you really want to attract sexually. And don’t settle for good enough, aim for the moon. You can think about a fictional character, a movie star or it could even be somebody that you know. Don’t censor yourself. We have a tendency to stay with what is comfortable, but that doesn’t lead to change. It’s even better if you think that person is out of your league. Give yourself permission to really want what you want. You are done playing small.

Give yourself permission to really want what you want. You are done playing small. Click To Tweet

Continue with the details about this man that you are attracted to. Is this man generous? Does he exhibit kindness and patience?  How does he present himself? Don’t just think about his looks, but think more about the qualities that this man has. You get it, right? I mean, it’s okay, if he looks good, but it’s not the sole focus. This is more about the energy that he projects out there.

Now, ask yourself, what kind of women would he be attracted to? What kind of qualities would she need to have to be a vibrational match to his energy?

2. Project your vision

It’s really that simple. You attract a man sexually through your energy. So once you understand the kind of woman the man you would like to be with is drawn to, you simply need to start to bring more of those qualities into your life and into your being. I’m not saying you have to change yourself, I am telling you to activate those dormant places that are within you. You still have to be authentically yourself.

If you feel like it’s a big stretch, then you might want to reconsider whether or not this is still the type of men that you wish to, or whether you’d instead choose a different kind of men. You need to be congruent. What your project says so much more than what you say. Remember about  70% of our communication is nonverbal.

What you project says so much more than what you say. Click To Tweet

So if you only rely on the things that you say, you’re not going to attract the right kind of men. You need to absolutely change your energy and how you show up in the world. Be bold, be confident, without being pushy.

3. Activate your feminine energy

A woman who is strong yet feminine is the most attractive to a man. Look into a man’s eyes even if you are blushing and hold his gaze. It is beautiful to show vulnerability, it’s actually attractive.

Here’s the thing, a woman who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to go after it is sexy. But there’s a fine line between going after what you want and being a ballbuster. Ideally, you want to allow him to make the first move especially when it comes to sexuality. This will set the stage for your dynamic and polarity – the force of attraction between the masculine and feminine energy. It’s like a magnetic current that runs between two beings and makes sex super potent.

Sometimes women are confused about what it means to be feminine, they think it’s all about being passive or a doormat. In reality, it isn’t so much about what you do; it’s about the way you are doing it. Are you focusing on how it feels (feminine) or are you focusing on the outcome and effect (masculine)?

You can verbally mention to him that you are turned on and that you are attracted to him, that you desire him. So see, again, this is about you, inspiring him with your feminine energy. You are letting him know about your feelings, and you are inviting him to take action and get results (be in his masculine). You can say something like: “Hey, I’m open, I’m attracted.”  But then allow him to make that first move. Once you open the door, just let him walk through that door.

Spark his fire with your charms and laughter. And see here, there are no tricks. It’s really about being yourself fully. Lean towards him, use your hand to touch his hand or arm barely. Stand close to him and be happy around him. And trust me, he will get it, and he will feel the pull. All of these things will signal to him that there is sexual tension and attraction.

If he feels it as well, he won’t help but be attracted to you. But remember, the most crucial part is about your own energy, and it all starts from within because you attract a man sexually with your energy.

4. Find your own way of irresistible

If you want to ignite his desire, then you need to flirt and master the art of seduction. There’s no one rule to flirt right. But in general, you want to use your smile, your eyes (don’t be afraid to hold that gaze), and your laugh. Say something positive and cute about him and match it with a smile. Be playful and use banter.

Laughter is a turn-on. Don’t try to be fun, just be fun. Men are subconsciously aroused by a woman’s laugh. When you are comfortable with yourself, others can feel it, and it’s contagious.

Be a tease. Showing off your assets, whether it is your booty or your breasts. I am not objectifying you, I am giving you permission to love what you have and flaunt it proudly. Remember your body is a stunning work of art.

Men like real women. A glowing, happy woman is like a magnet to men. You really don’t need to hide underneath tons of makeup or hairspray. Sure it’s nice to enhance what you’ve got, but there’s no need to overdo it.

Really there are no tricks here, it’s about finding your very own flavor of irresistible and liking who you are. Don’t pretend to be someone you are not and don’t play games. Love yourself first and foremost. An irresistible woman owns her pleasure and radiance without apology.

An irresistible woman owns her pleasure and radiance without apology. Click To Tweet

5. Turn on your pussy power

Next, let’s take a look at the way you move. Are you walking sex or are you an awkward teenager? When you are in touch with your feminine essence, your body moves differently.

Shift your attention from your head and your to-do list and focus on your lower belly and the energy between your legs. Start slowly moving while focusing on your hips and pussy. Walk from that place of awareness and with your attention to the lower half of your body. The next time you approach a man, walk towards him while placing your attention on your pussy. He won’t know why but he will mysteriously feel pulled and attracted towards you.

Your biggest weapon when it comes to attracting men sexually is your turn-ons. There’s something so powerful and magnetic about a woman in touch with her pleasure. Your pleasure is sexy. Whether you are ecstatically eating a meal, or you are looking at a man with desire in your eyes, or even being passionate about life. There’s no higher turn-on for a guy than seeing you in your pleasure and unapologetically claiming it.

There’s no higher turn-on for a guy than seeing you in your pleasure and unapologetically claiming it. Click To Tweet

You also want to leverage the power of your scent. If you think your favorite bottled fragrance is the most potent scent trail you can leave behind, think again. Your own pheromones can do the trick for you much better. Next time you are about to go out, add a dab of your pussy juices behind your ears. Fair warning, this is highly effective and doesn’t solely work on men, so be prepared to receive a lot of attention and positive response from people being unexplainably attracted towards you.

In the end, it really comes down to how you feel about yourself. If you feel fantastic and sexy, then others will respond to that energy. So visualize yourself attracting the right kind of men, use your energy to become a sexual magnet. Focus on your feminine essence, develop your own brand of irresistible style and charm and let your pussy guide you – because she knows best.

Céline is a leading expert who has helped and worked with over one and a half thousand men, women, and couples to discover their sensuality and energy in their sex life and relationships. She teaches how to unleash sexual potential, bring out the best in each other, and have mind-blowing sex for hours. When Celine was twenty, she decided to leave her safe and beautiful home of Switzerland and travel the world alone to begin her quest for ancient spiritual and sexual knowledge. She studied Ayurveda and hatha yoga in India, Taoism and Thai massage in Thailand, before becoming a Certified Sexological Bodyworker. Céline and her husband Kevin are creators of the Sexual Power and Mastery course, and they host The Love Lab Podcast.

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