Maybe you’ve been dating or in a relationship for a while, and you’re thinking about giving your lovely lady a gift. Will it raise her interest level in you? That will all depend upon whether she’s an ‘acts of service’ gal or a woman who prefers receiving gifts. Obviously, you can seldom go wrong with gift-giving — she will most likely enjoy receiving gifts no matter what they are, but you will need to be thoughtful about gifts for women.
Not only what gifts to give her, but when, and what happens to be the right timing for a special gift? Unfortunately, a lot of men think that they can buy a woman’s love — especially the wealthy types. Obviously, extravagant jewelry, fancy dinners, and other gifts won’t hurt. However, if you think that you’re going to ‘buy’ her heart — think again. Some women may see excessive gift-giving as needy behavior, and rightly so. They will be able to see right through you with x-ray vision and know your intentions because most women are very intuitive in nature and they know what you truly want.
So what are the ideal gifts for women and when should you give them? Let’s examine this so that you won’t be perceived as the cheap and selfish guy that never spends money on her and gives her gifts, regardless of your income level.
A card or love letter
A simple card or love letter will go a long way. If you’re really creative, write her some poetry that will give an emotional connection to you. Just make sure that it doesn’t come across as cheesy, but romantic and risky instead. She will admire the bravery that you give her. If she truly loves you, she will keep it as a memorable and special keepsake. A simple card or love letter will reaffirm your love for her, and what woman doesn’t want to feel loved by her man?
Flowers and chocolate
Most women appreciate flowers and chocolate. If you’re enduring some turbulence within your relationship, and ‘it’s been a while’ since you’ve been intimate with her, try getting flowers delivered to her at work out of surprise. You can keep the note short and sweet, like ‘I love you’ or ‘You’re the best, and I can’t wait to see you tonight.’ If her interest level is high in you, her eyes will light up with excitement. If she has a low interest level in you, she’ll reply, “Thank you, but you really didn’t need to do that.” Flowers generally mean that you’re sorry, and chocolates mean that you love her. Just make sure that you time this perfectly, and don’t buy her flowers as a last resort if you’re going through a separation or divorce because you’re most likely wasting your money on her if it’s over. Make sure that she has a high interest level in you, and really cares about you, and loves you, and can’t wait to come home that evening to rip your clothes off.
Makeup or perfume
So you’re planning to go shopping for a makeup or perfume gift for her at the mall? Ballsy move! Just make sure that you know beforehand what stores that she loves shopping at, and what products she commonly purchases. If you nail this one, it will pay dividends for you! Women love men who are thoughtful and know exactly what they like. Just be careful — this is a slippery slope because if you get her eyeshadow or lipstick wrong, it will show her how you don’t really know her or pay any attention to what she likes. If she hates the perfume, you’ll get a reply such as, “Honey, I love you. I am not a fan of this perfume, but at least the thought was there.” You don’t want to settle for this, because you want to impress her with your charm and brilliance. Make sure to know her brands and style before you hit the shops.
You should only give a woman lavish and expensive gifts if you’ve been steady and exclusive with her. It would be a mistake to buy her an expensive necklace or earrings if you’ve only been seeing her for a month or so. Lavish gifts for women should come after you’re getting really serious.
When you decide to get jewelry for her, but you are uncertain of your girlfriend’s or wife’s taste in things, you can always take one of her girlfriends or sisters with you. If you are going to spend a lot of money on her for your love, make sure that you don’t waste it on something that she won’t truly desire, cherish, and show off.
A cute pet
If you really want to blow her away, get her a cute little puppy, kitten, or other pet as a gift. If you pick out a really cute puppy or kitten, how will a woman refuse this? Is she going to take a cute pet back to the pet store whimpering? Well… probably if it poops immediately on her ornate rug, but getting a pet for her is a creative move! However, it’s important to keep in mind that women may not want this gift, due to the life changes and daily responsibility of cleaning up the messes that your new pet will make. If she tells you that she’s not a pet person, don’t be stupid and get her one. You may want to mutually visit the pet store to pick out a pet that you both will enjoy. For instance, maybe she doesn’t like kittens but loves puppies. Maybe she’s rather odd and loves lizards. The pet will also distract her the next time that she’s pissed at you! It’s a win-win!
Gift-giving usually works, but it also depends upon her interest level in you. You want to surprise her, show your love and admiration, and be sincere with her. Don’t give gifts for the result of playing games with her heart. Make certain that your love for her is real and genuine. Giving special gifts will express your love, and will remind her what a catch she has. Make her feel special, cared about, and loved.