Sexy texts can be a great way of keeping things exciting when you are chatting with a guy. But how do you know what to text him, so you don’t come across as awkward or plain boring? Not to worry! Here you will find some sexting tips, as well as a list of over one hundred sexting messages for him that you can use for inspiration.
How to turn a guy on by text
When you are working out how to sext a guy, a few guiding principles are worth remembering. Of course, every guy is different, but some general rules for texting dirty will most likely work for him. These sexting tips are worth keeping in mind for when you decide to overcome your shyness and spice things up with naughty sexts.
Spark his imagination
Men are more visual creatures than women when it comes to what turns them on. However, leaving some things to a guy’s imagination can also be surprisingly effective at getting his full attention. For example, painting a picture with words can get his mind racing more than an image can.
Let him chase you a little
While it is true that a lot of guys love it when a girl takes control and is openly sexual, this is often only effective in the short term. Having something to “pursue” and feeling like a guy has achieved something can be a more effective way of keeping him interested long term. Instead of showing him everything he wants to see straight away, hold a little information back, with the hint that he may be able to get a little more with a bit of effort.
Give him something to look forward to
The kind of texts that will make him want you the most are the ones that suggest things that may happen when you meet in person. After all, the goal of a sexting conversation is usually to lead to more physical, in-person encounters at some point, right? If you want a guy to be desperate to meet up with you in person, you may want to hint about some of the things you would like to do with him when you see him face-to-face (or him behind you, if that’s more your thing).
Best sexting messages for him for inspiration
So you’ve been texting each other back and forward the whole evening, and you think it might be the right time to send a cheeky sext for the guy. But as it often happens, your mind suddenly goes blank. Luckily, I’ve done the homework for you and prepared this list of sexting examples. Choose from innocent sexy texts to flirty, funny, and even dirty texts for him and mix and match them based on your mood and the situation!
Innocent sexy texts for him
Sometimes you don’t want to dive straight into the hardcore stuff. Perhaps you are dipping your toe into the world of sexting with your boyfriend? Or maybe you are talking to a new crush and trying to use subtle hints that might push the conversation in a more steamy direction? These innocent sexy texts can spark a guy’s imagination without being too forward too quickly.
- I had a dream about you last night. I bet you can’t guess what happened?
- I’m so bored. I wish I had some company.
- Sometimes I feel like I need a man in my life.
- I want to know what you think about before you fall asleep at night.
- Stop it! You’re going to make me blush.
- If only you knew what I was thinking right now…
- Is it just me, or is it getting hot in here?
- I just had a really nice shower, can’t be bothered to get dressed yet!
- I’d love to tell you what I was thinking, but we’ll have to get to know each other better first…
- Hey, what are you up to? I’m just lying in bed thinking of you.
- I’m so bored. I wish you were here to keep me entertained.
- If you could have one companion on a desert island, who would it be?
- What are you doing? I’m texting a really sexy guy right now.
- What kind of clothes do you think would look best on me?
- You seem like fun. Perhaps we should get to know each other better?
Flirty sexting messages
Okay, now it’s time to turn the heat up. While some of the previous messages can have innocent explanations, with these flirty sexting messages, there is no denying your true intentions. You can start stirring the conversation the desired way by asking him some flirty questions and then proceeding with one of the flirty sexting messages from this list.
- I wonder if you’re as incredible in real life as you are in my dreams and fantasies.
- If I said you could do anything you wanted to me, what would you do?
- This bed is so empty without you in it. Come and fix that.
- I need you so bad right now.
- I saw you in my dream last night. Come over so I can show you exactly what happened.
- I love it when you touch me.
- What’s your favorite part of me to touch?
- What’s your favorite part of me to taste?
- I can’t stop thinking about what we did last time I saw you. It’s driving me wild.
- I’m completely naked in bed right now. Come over.
- I really want to touch you right now.
- I need a shower, but I don’t like going alone. Want to give me a hand?
- What are your favorite sex positions? I’m just wondering so I know what to plan for tonight.
- When I think about you, it’s really hard not to touch myself. When you think about me, is it really hard too?
- To be honest, I’m sensing a lot of sexual tension between us. Let’s meet up so we can resolve it.
Romantic sexy texts for him
Sex that is part of a loving relationship can be the best sex of all. When you are really in love with someone, it can be emotionally and sexually satisfying to spice up your love life with a really sexy text. It will make his blood race to his heart as well as his pants. These sexting ideas can be seriously intimate.
- I want you, darling. All of you.
- I want to feel your lips on my lips and your skin on my skin.
- I miss the sweet taste of you.
- I want to get to know everything there is to know about you, emotionally and physically. There isn’t an inch of your body or soul that I don’t yearn to explore.
- I want to study you like a map, learn the geography of your body, and go roaming to experience incredible things.
- You are gorgeous, my love. Your body sets a fire in my heart and a hunger in my soul. Satiate me and quench my thirst.
- If tonight was our last night on earth, how would you make it unforgettable?
- I want to lie you down on soft sheets and kiss every inch of your beautiful body until you can’t resist taking me.
- Next time I see you, I will show you exactly how much I missed you, daring. Words alone can’t express it, so I will have to show you another way.
- I wish you were as deep inside me as the thought of you is deep in my heart. I am empty without you; make me full again.
- I miss you like crazy. I want to collapse into your arms and feel you all over me until I explode with pleasure.
- I can’t stop thinking about you and what you do for me. The way you make me smile, the way you make me feel safe, and the way you make me scream in ecstasy when you are inside me.
- To say that I really like it when you touch me would be an understatement. I cannot live without your touch, and every inch of my body craves yours like a drug.
- The next time I see you, love, I’m going to make sure that our time apart was worth it. I’m going to do anything that you want me to do. Just tell me what to do, and I am yours.
- I want to become one with you, spiritually and physically. Our bodies and souls entwined in pure passion, now and forever.
Funny sexts to make him smile
Earnest devotion and poetic declarations of love are not always needed to have fun in a relationship. Sometimes it is great just to have a laugh with your partner. These funny sext messages can turn him on, and if they don’t, at least you made him laugh!
- When you hear what I’ve got planned for you tonight, you’re going to be harder than advanced calculus.
- Hey, I lost my virginity. Can you give me yours?
- Roses are red, violets are fine. You be the 6, and I’ll be the 9.
- Sorry, I have to go—your ass is calling me.
- Come and put your thingy in my thingy.
- I can’t think of anything witty to say, so I’ll be straightforward: I would like you to engage in sexual activity with me.
- Here’s a joke for you: sex. Did you get it, or shall I help you out?
- Screw me senseless if I’m wrong, but the sky is green, right?
- Your ears look cold. Want to use my thighs as earmuffs?
- Hey, I’ve got thirty seconds to kill. Fancy coming round and screwing me?
- Roses are red, violets are blue. I’m horny and desperate, so tonight you will do.
- Congratulations! You have been randomly selected to spend a night with me.
- Of all the people I’d love to have sex with, you’re the closest in proximity.
- What’s the difference between a PlayStation 5 and an erection? I can’t give you a PlayStation 5.
- What’s the difference between a sense of purpose in life and an erection? I can’t give you a sense of purpose in life.
Teasing texts to turn a guy on
Teasing is one of the best ways to get a guy’s attention and turn him on. Most men love a chase yet also want to know that they have some chance of getting down and dirty with you! A teasing text message is a great way to flirt and build sexual tension between the two of you.
- There’s something I really want, but you have to guess what it is.
- I just thought you should know that I’m not wearing any panties right now.
- I’m really bored, do you have any ideas on how I could spend my time?
- Looking forward to seeing you later. If you play your cards right, you might even get lucky.
- I’m struggling to get my new bra off. I wish you were here to help me.
- I bet you wish you were here in bed with me instead of at work…
- I’m really horny, and nobody’s here to help me out… I guess I’ll just have to use my vibrator again.
- My boobs look great in this top; it’s just a shame you’re not here to see them.
- I learned about some new sex positions today… it’s a shame I don’t have anyone to try them out with.
- I bet you can’t stop thinking about me naked.
- I’m not sure you could make me orgasm, but maybe you can prove me wrong.
- You’re at work now, aren’t you? I bet this would be a really frustrating time for me to start doing some dirty talk, eh?
- I just got out of the shower, and I’m lying on my bed. Would you like to see what you’re missing out on?
- I’m not a girl that’s easy to please, but I may be willing to let you try.
- If you want to see me naked, you’re going to have to give me something in return.
Dirty texts for him
Let’s not beat around the bush—sometimes you need to cut to the chase. If you’re desperate for him to give you everything you want and not afraid to tell him in detail, these dirty texts will have him racing to come and see you as fast as he can.
- I love seeing you turned on. I’m going to make sure you’re rock hard before I take your clothes off.
- My tongue knows a lot of tricks. I bet you can’t wait to find out.
- Something is missing in my life. You. Between my legs.
- I have a confession to make. When I think about you, I touch myself.
- Be honest—have you ever had a wet dream about me?
- I need you deep inside me right now. Come here and make me scream.
- I’ve been really bad today. You’re going to have to spank me hard.
- Come over tonight. I’m going to tie you up and touch you slowly until you beg me to give you what you want.
- I just want you to use me as a toy. Throw me around and show me who’s in charge.
- Your mind isn’t the only part of you I’m going to blow tonight.
- I’m so tired today. I need to sit somewhere. Bring me your face.
- I need you so bad. I know you can give me what I want tonight, and I know I’m going to be LOUD.
- You’re going to have to call in sick to work tomorrow. You’re not getting any sleep tonight, and you might not be able to walk when I’m through with you.
- Come to mine right now. I’m naked and ready for you. The door is unlocked. You don’t need to say a word.
- You won’t believe how wet I am right now thinking about all the things I want you to do to me.
Visual sexts to make him want you bad
Most men are visual creatures, especially when it comes to sex and sexting. Of course, sending nudes to your boyfriend is almost always appreciated. Still, sometimes you may have to paint a picture for him using words. Whether you are uncomfortable sending a picture of yourself or simply want to make him use his imagination, these visual text messages can drive him crazy.
- I don’t mean to brag, but I look so good in this outfit right now. If you could see me, you’d want to tear it off with your teeth.
- I’m sucking on a lollipop right now. Just thought I’d give you that mental image.
- What would you do if I walked into the room right now and took all of my clothes off?
- Would you believe me if I told you I’m wearing my sexiest lingerie right now, spread out on my bed and dreaming of you?
- I know you can’t see me right now, but I just wanted to let you know that I’m playing with my favorite toys.
- I bought a new bra today, but I keep falling out of it.
- Whatever you do right now, DON’T picture me naked riding you like a train. I said, DON’T!
- What would you do if you walked into the bathroom and saw me touching myself in the shower?
- What would you do if you walked into the kitchen and saw me completely naked on the table, covered in whipped cream and chocolate?
- Imagine waking up to see me going down on you.
- Imagine walking into the office to see me in a short skirt and no panties, bent over your desk and ready to take some discipline.
- If you came home early to find me naked in bed with another woman, how would you punish me?
- My ass would look even better with your handprints on it.
- Last night I was thinking about you, and I ended up using my favorite toy. I bet you would have loved to see it.
- I love to look you in the eyes… especially when I’m kneeling down and looking up at you while undoing your pants.
Sexting mistakes to avoid
While most guys enjoy dirty texts, there are still some pitfalls of sexting a guy that can turn him off, or worse—make him feel uncomfortable. Let’s explore some of the sexting mistakes that can be made and how you can avoid them.
Sexting the wrong person
Of course, accidentally sending a sexy text (or worse, a picture) to the wrong person is usually highly embarrassing and can even get you into professional or legal trouble. Always double-check that you send a sext to the person it is intended for, not somebody with the same or a similar name in your contacts list. You should also make sure that you are using a private messaging app rather than a public social media page.
Sexting without permission
You may think that guys always have sex on the brain and are always happy to receive sexy text messages or pictures. While there is sometimes truth in this, it is not always the case. Guys can get uncomfortable with unsolicited sexts just like girls do. It might be because they are not interested in you in that way or because it is simply a bad time for them. So if you are chatting with someone new that you don’t know well, you should always get his consent before you start sexting.
Moving too fast
If you have some naughty ideas in your head, it is usually better to start out with mild flirting and then building up from there. Get the guy’s interest first, and then get his permission to take things further. You might be sizzling if you like the guy sexually. However, moving too fast can be received as inappropriate and, in some cases, can get your contact blocked on a messenger or on a dating app.
Sexting when you feel pressured
It may be the case that sexting has been initiated by a guy rather than by you. You may not be sure if you are comfortable with taking part, and this is perfectly okay. Take your time to decide what your boundaries are, and don’t let yourself feel pressured to cross them. Dirty text talk can be a lot of fun, but only if both participants are comfortable and excited by it. If you receive an utterly unsolicited sext from somebody, it may be best to simply block them. You should only communicate sexually with people who respect you.
If you can avoid these pitfalls and get into the right mood, sexting can be an entertaining activity. Choose your texts carefully, try to feel the vibe of the guy you are sending them to, and most importantly – have fun!