6 Signs He’s Not Interested After the First Date

signs he's not interested after first date

After the first date, you may want to know what’s going on. Does he like me? Is he infatuated with me, or even better yet, obsessed with me? Despite your high expectations of how the date went, or how much he likes you, you may want to know the signs that he’s not really into you. Perhaps you’re having some doubts or you’re feeling mixed signals about how your first date went. I hate to burst your bubble, but I’ll give you six signs that he’s not interested after the first date.

1. He cuts the date short

If he cuts the first date short and asks for the check early, he’s likely not into you. There is a slight possibility that he cuts the date short to try to pique your interest level in him (some guys will do this), but most likely he’s got other things to do that are more important than you. Pay attention to him during the date. Does he look bored, is he checking out his messages on the phone or even worse – the booty of the waitress? Is he not paying attention to you? Maybe he’s watching the football game over your head, or eating the dinner that is much more interesting to him than your presence? If he asks for the check early and gives you some urgent excuse, this is a red flag that he’s not interested in you.

2. There are no hints for the next date

If there is no discussion of future plans or plans for the next date ahead, he’s likely not interested. If a guy really likes you, he imagines future dates with you, he romanticizes about seeing you next, he feels infatuated with you, and he will often make future plans as soon as he can. Most of the time, he will ask you what you’re doing next weekend, or if you have any plans for the upcoming month. A guy who is into you will ask you what you’re doing next week and will make plans to see you again for a second date. He doesn’t want another guy (the competition) getting in the way of his happiness with you.

3. He stops texting you

If you were texting with him frequently before the first date, and he stops texting you afterward, he’s probably not interested in you. Many people will do this after the date (regardless of the sex) if they’re no longer interested. Being on the date, you will see each other in person, rather than virtually. He may decide that he’s not as attracted to you as he initially thought. Usually, if a guy has fun on the date with you and is attracted to you, he will text you within the next few days. “Hey… I had a great time with you! Would you like to go out again sometime soon?” This is a common text after a good date. If you get nothing, he’s either waiting and trying to raise your interest level in him (say a week or so), otherwise, he’s just not interested. If a week passes, you will probably want to throw in the towel. You can always follow-up with him with a text if you wish, but most guys will initiate the communication after the date if they have high interest level. If you’re being ghosted, he’s likely onto the next date with a different woman that he finds more attractive.

4. He makes lame excuses

I prefer honesty with guys, but if he’s a real wimpy guy, he’ll make excuses for why he can’t see you again. “I’m going to be really busy with work next week… I’ll call you.” Then… he never calls or contacts you. A guy who is interested in you will make time for you, no matter how ‘busy’ he is in his personal life. A guy with low interest level will make excuses: I’m going out of town, I’m not ready for a relationship yet, I have to travel for work. Whatever the excuse is, he simply doesn’t want to hurt your feelings, so he will make some lame excuses why he can’t see you anymore.

5. He stands you up

I really think that this is extremely rude behavior, but some guys just won’t show up for the date if they aren’t into you. Rather than simply texting you, “I’ve decided to go in a different direction,” or “I’m not ready to date yet,” he will rudely stand you up. So you’re all dolled-up waiting for your prince charming around the corner, who happens to be a total douche who never even shows up. It’s best that you don’t let this bother you, and move on with a guy who will respect you, be considerate, and treat you well.

6. He mentions other women

Most men who are the player types won’t mention other women during your date that they may be seeing. If he does mention his friend Vanessa, it’s a red flag. He’s obviously being stupid possibly bringing up another woman that he’s seeing on the side. If he insists that he’s simply ‘friends’ with her, you can trust that if he doesn’t call you after the first date, he’s probably getting cozy with Vanessa at her place. Most guys won’t mention other women during the date and will be secretive about other women, but if he stupidly spills the beans about Vanessa during the date while he’s supposed to be paying attention to you, you probably want to give up on him. He’s probably not interested in you, but if you want to compete with other attractive women for his attention — go for it. Otherwise, refrain from punching him in the face, and leave the date immediately for your own sanity and peace of mind.

These are some common signs that he’s not into you after the first date. It’s best to just chalk these dates up as experience (however bad the first dates may be), and seek a guy that you deserve.

William is a graphic designer and creative writer. One of his favourite interests is reading books about relationships. He recommends ‘How to Succeed with Women’ and Doc Love’s ‘The System’. He has two adorable children that he enjoys spending time with. William is currently single and is preparing for his next relationship. You can follow him on Twitter.


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