There is literally nothing worse than not knowing if he’s going to text back. You’re in total limbo and your life stands still. “Will he text me again?” is the only thing spinning in your mind.
You could go out with your friends tonight but you just know you won’t be yourself unless you get a text from him. You’ll be a total mess who starts to hear notifications in your head. “Did anyone just hear that? I swear to God my phone just beeped but there’s no text. Do you think it got stuck somewhere?!” It’s enough to drive you crazy.
It is a painful scenario, and one that many of us have experienced: You’ve been getting to know him for the last few weeks, but all of a sudden it’s as though he’s slipping away. You’re worried he’s never going to text ever again, and you’d give anything to receive just one more text, even if it’s about how many zombies he’s managed to kill on his video game or that he thinks you may have eaten the last packet of Cheetos he was ‘saving’. Oh, how you’d love to hear about those zombies now even though you always used to complain that he liked them more than you!
The thing is that both women and men wonder whether they have scuppered a relationship to the point where the other person probably isn’t going to text them ever again. We fixate on the idea that we’ve become too boring for them, said something stupid one too many times, or they’ve found someone else.
But you know what? It’s not the hope that they might text back which encourages us and gives us strength. This is actually what kills us because it stops us from moving on with our lives and getting them out of our heads. To help you out, here are 5 signs that suggest the answer to your question “Will he ever text me again?” is probably going to be “No”.
1. He hasn’t texted first for too long
During the early days of texting someone we like, it doesn’t tend to bother us if we’re the ones who are always texting first. In fact, we don’t even think about it. Eventually, though, it becomes a concern. So much so that when he does text us first for once, our heart skips several beats and we pretty much think it means he wants to marry us.
However, if he hasn’t made an effort whatsoever to text first for a long, long time, it’s a sure-fire sign that he’s probably never going to do it again. And in all likelihood, the only reason he’s been replying at all recently is because he’s polite.
2. He goes ages without replying
It’s always alarming when you haven’t heard from a guy for over a day before finding out that he’s still been texting other people. While your text about how gross you feel after eating one too many donuts during Project Runway LOL is still left unanswered in his inbox, but he’s somehow found the time in his schedule to text his friends.
The thing is, he never told you he was too busy to text back. You just assumed he was. It reassured you, but now that you know he wasn’t busy at all and that he was texting other people, it’s a strong sign that he’s probably never going to reply to your text.
3. He ghosts you
Sure, our grandparents had to deal with black and white television sets, cars that sent more than 1000g/km of CO2 into the atmosphere and John Wayne, but all of that pales into insignificance when compared to being ghosted.
They say that when a person ghosts us, it’s their way of letting us know ever so gently that it’s all over. Instead of coming right out and telling us that they hate this or that it’s about us, they just slowly disappear until poof! They’re basically a ghost.
If he was once hot for texting but has since started to ghost the heck out of you, you should probably take this as a sign, not that he’s busy, but that he probably won’t be coming back.
4. He’s no fun anymore
He was the guy you bantered with. You’d make a joke, and he’d laugh before following it up with another joke. You both found it so easy to find humor in everything, and the text conversations were the most fun you ever had.
Now, however, he writes as though his cat has died. Everything is “ok” and “sure” and just “lol”. Where are those killer responses? Sadly, they’re gone, and they’re probably not coming back.
5. He’s been silent for over three days
He used to text you every day, but suddenly it all stopped. If it’s been over three days and he hasn’t replied, it’s best all around if you just face up to the writing that’s on the wall. It’s a sickening feeling, but the longer he goes without sending a simple text that would take him a few seconds to compose, the more you can be sure he’s never going to get around to do it.