If you haven’t dated for a while, you’re likely to run across some challenges on the dating scene. One of those problems will be your first date with her, you know — that sexy woman who you’re eager to meet, and you seem to feel so excited about dating? Get ready that she’ll be judging you during your date, because… naturally, when you first meet someone, you’re assessing them. It’s similar to a job interview, except she’s interviewing to be your honey in the bedroom. It’s important to leave that good first impression, and if she’s really hot, you will want to be memorable with her. Here are some essential first date tips for men that will help you to make it a success.
1. Make her laugh
She’s going out with you on a date, so that she can have a good time. You will want to be an upstanding gentleman, yet you must also show her that you have a sense of humor, and you’re fun to be around. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with making a few tasteful jokes to break the ice with her, and make her feel more comfortable with you during the date. You want her to feel closer to you, and there’s no better way to tug at her heart strings than being a funny guy.
While you should be humorous, don’t go to extremes, because you are risking of becoming a clown. Women will want a connection that is fun, yet serious. However, you don’t want to get too serious with her spilling your guts out on the first date, until you realise that you have a second date lined up. Even then, don’t spill your guts to her. Take your time to get to know her.
2. Act like you own the place
There’s nothing sexier to women than a confident guy who looks like he has his shit together. If you walk in like you own the place, she may think “Wow! He’s really attractive, and he’s really got it going on! I really like him!” I’m not talking about strutting John Travolta style, but you should appear dapper and confident with her.
Mind your clothes, show up to the date well-groomed, have your shiny shoes on, show off your bright smile and dazzling hair. It really just depends on her taste, but the most important thing is to be confident and ready to handle her. She might try size you up. It’s a flirting technique that she uses to see what you’ve got (a form of Womanese). A lot of really hot women will say things like this, and tease you to challenge you sexually. Act like a real man and sweep her off her feet.
3. Don’t talk to her like to your mate
Keep in mind, that she’s not your best friend, so don’t talk to her like you would your mate. Don’t confide in her too much, because you really don’t know her at this point, and you don’t know for certain if you can really trust her yet. Take your time getting to know her, and by all means, let her do most of the talking during the first date. Women love to talk, vent, and feel connected to guys in conversation, so try to be a good listener.
You can be a little mysterious, but don’t be manipulative, and don’t show her deviant behavior like you’re not being real with her. Be upfront and talk to her like you would talk to a hot woman who you are sexually attracted to. You should feel a little nervous if you really dig her! She’s not your best friend, she’s not your mom, she’s not your doggie, she’s not there to listen to your rehab stories, previous restraining orders, bad exes, etc. She’s not your therapist. She’s a stranger that you’re attracted to and want to get to know better, because you can see yourself dating her.
4. Ask her a lot of questions
You want to ask her a lot of questions to get her talking and to start to feel comfortable with you. It’s fine if she confides in you, but you need to be responsible, respectful, and don’t tell your buddies about what she told you after the date. Dating should be private, and it should be a private experience that you both share together. If you talk to your friends about her behind her back, and it gets back to her in some way, she’ll be upset about you breaking her trust. Keep it in mind if you want to get serious with her.
You want to get her talking about her career, her job, what she enjoys doing for fun and other topics that will spark her interest. If she really enjoys reading, talk to her about what she’s reading, and what her favorite books or authors are. If she’s an artist, talk to her about what inspires her creatively, or who her favorite artists are that she admires. You will create a memorable experience for her on her first date that she frankly didn’t receive from all of the other dull guys that she went out with in her past.
5. Lower your expectations
If you go into your first date with high expectations, you will likely end up feeling disappointed. You need to be realistic, yet remember why you’re going out with her. Something must have stood out to you in her dating profile, or maybe you met her somewhere at an event, while sharing a common interest. If she seems like a keeper, you won’t want to blow your first date, so go into it relaxed, be real with her, and be yourself (to an extent).
Unless you’re looking for a quick hook-up, there’s no need to have sex on the first date. I don’t believe that you should have sex before monogamy, but that’s just my opinion. Maybe I’m old fashioned, but I think that you’re opening up a can of worms if you end up sleeping with her too soon, and you may regret it after the sexual pleasure subsides.
6. Keep the date short
You don’t want to overstay your first date. In other words, get to know her a little bit, but you may want to leave early, because you’re so busy being awesome you and being successful. Overstaying the date shows weakness to her. You don’t want to get too comfortable with her on the first date. Leave her wanting more from you. It makes you more of a challenge to her, more mysterious, and she may wonder if you have another date scheduled with another hot woman. So have a good time, but don’t be that dull TV show that stays on the air too long that everyone became bored with.
Hopefully these first date tips for men will help you along. If you’re really panicking during your date, you can always imagine that I am coaching you along for dating success. If you had a good time with her on your first date, let her know that you’re interested in seeing her again, and take it from there.