how to be happy alone

I’ve been single for a while, and I’m actually really enjoying it. I had that opportunity to jump into the next relationship in the past, but I’m taking my time this time. There’s a reason for it: I don’t want to end up in another bad relationship, suffering in silence, or in a relationship that won’t last.

Finding the right partner is similar to finding that right job. Sure, you can settle for that job that will get you by financially, but are you aiming high for the one that will take you places that you’ve never been before in your career and simply blow you away? The same goes for a relationship. There are plenty of single people out there, but finding the shiny diamond in the rough that’s a good fit for yourself takes a while.

What I understand now, is that I don’t need to be in a relationship to make myself truly happy. Let me show you how to be happy alone.

Do what makes you happy

Being alone gives you time to explore your interests. You can go and watch horror movies at midnight that you never were able to do in your previous relationship, because your partner happened to loathe horror movies. You can go shopping anywhere you want, and buy super cool clothes for yourself. You can buy that new, shiny and fast computer without having to argue with your partner about how expensive it is, and it’s not within your collective budget. You basically do whatever you want to, and you can stay out late without having to check in with your significant other.

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Focus on your career

There’s never been a better time than now to focus on your career. Being alone gives you that luxury, without a relationship and all of the problems that can come with it. You can work late without anyone asking where you are. You can float more résumés out, and concentrate on that career path that’s going to take you in a positive direction. You have the time to start that business that you’ve always dreamed about. What’s wrong with focusing on yourself, becoming more successful, and making more money? Nothing! Sure, you will have the occasional pitfalls — not everything will work out for you, maybe you don’t end up getting that job that you really desired, but being alone gives you the time to research, work hard, and succeed without a toxic relationship dragging you down.

Try out dating sites

You can date without rushing into things. Being single and alone gives you the luxury to take your sweet time on dating sites. Want to date? Set some dates up. Don’t feel like dating for a while and want to save your money instead of spending it on a monthly dating site membership? Take a few months off. It’s not a problem. The only one that you have to answer to is yourself. Being alone is actually a huge benefit when it comes to dating, because you are absolutely free to date and choose who you please. It’s absolute freedom.

Plan your future

Your destiny is what you make of it. I realize that there are many barriers in life, and there are many circumstances that are beyond your control, but having alone time lets you focus on being the architect of planning and creating your future. It’s the opportunity to pursue and live your dreams. Not only that, but if you’re successful with your decisions, you inevitably become more datable, because women can sense your motivation and career ambition. Even if you don’t always succeed, you will become more attractive to women as you gain wealth and prestige pursuing what you’re passionate about. Your career drive and your ambitiousness is sexy as hell!

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Workout and stay healthy

After becoming single, I’ve had a ton of time to hit the gym. I wanted to be fitter, lift weights, and focus on my physique after acquiring that ‘Dad Bod’ from previous relationships. Being alone gives you more time to focus on your fitness, workout, and stay healthy. Who wants to be inactive sitting around their house all of the time alone, when you can get out and improve yourself at the gym? You need to stop asking yourself ‘why’, and start asking yourself ‘why not?’ If you workout, you’ll end up feeling better and looking better, but it’s more important that you feel better for yourself than for somebody else. The rest is just icing on the cake.

These are just some of the benefits of being alone and single. Being alone can give you advantages that being stuck in a bad relationship simply can’t. The goal is to improve yourself, enjoy yourself, grow as a person, and realize that you don’t need someone else to complete yourself and make yourself happy. Asking your partner to complete yourself is just weak anyway. When you’re alone for awhile, you’re truly ready for that next relationship, because you are confident, secure, independent, and enjoy your own company.

William is a graphic designer and creative writer. One of his favourite interests is reading books about relationships. He recommends ‘How to Succeed with Women’ and Doc Love’s ‘The System’. He has two adorable children that he enjoys spending time with. William is currently single and is preparing for his next relationship. You can follow him on Twitter.

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