clingy girlfriend

Your guy is so fantastic and you thank your lucky stars each and every day that you have him in your life. The infatuation is growing so strong, and if this is what love feels like then it is better than the description you have heard in love songs. Does this sound familiar? If so, then I am happy for you! Finding true love is something to celebrate. You might find though that in spite of your shared feelings of love, your man might be doing whatever he can to create some distance between the two of you.

Your boyfriend’s steps to distance himself from you might have started innocently enough; he wanted to assure you that his plans to spend time with his friends every Friday night does not mean that he is losing love for you. But then, you notice that he isn’t immediately responding to all of your texts like he did when you first met. And then, sometimes he says that he is too tired to call you back. It could be that your boyfriend is trying to subtly let you know that you are hanging on to him too much and he cannot handle it. Here is why being a clingy girlfriend might make your guy run away.

He needs his time too focus on his life

It is understandable that you want to be your mate’s number one priority, but you need to remember that you are not the only person in his life. Your boyfriend has family members, friends, a career, and hobbies to focus on in addition to his relationship with you. If you smother your guy too much, the other people in his life might start complaining. If you are not careful, you will alienate people who are important in your boyfriend’s life.

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Give him time to spend away from you. Everyone needs fresh perspective every once in a while. After all, everyone needs a vacation from work once in a while to unwind and to develop a greater appreciation for working. The same concept applies to a relationship. Your boyfriend might even appreciate you more when he is given a chance to miss you. Instead of pouting and complaining when your boyfriend tells you that he wants to spend a day without you, give him a kiss, a smile, and wish him a good time. Guaranteed, if you behave that way, he will be happy to return to you.

He needs to reflect on his feelings

The fact that you already know that you want to be in an exclusive relationship with him is not a guarantee that your man feels the same way about you. When you bombard your boyfriend’s time, he does not get a chance to be alone in his thoughts and figure out if the two of you are an appropriate match. In fact, if you don’t give your mate any personal space, he might see too much of you all at once and decide that he has already seen who you are and doesn’t want to give you more chances to get to know each other.

A friend of mine who works as a matchmaker often remarks that a quick start in a relationship often leads to a quick end. Give the object of your affection a chance to get to know you over time. If you unleash all of the details of your life to him and you monopolise his time, he might feel overwhelmed and afraid to go further with you. This can be especially true if you are dating someone who likes to analyse situations before plunging deeper. If you are a jump into the pool person and your guy is the type who likes to dip his toes in the water first to get a feel of the temperature before diving in, you need to proceed cautiously with him. Watch his body language and make note if he distances himself from you when you demand to spend the majority of your time together.

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He will be afraid to commit

Your boyfriend might think it’s cute at first when you hug him tightly each day and whisper in his ear that you cannot live without him, but soon, he might feel anxious at the thought of you being completely dependent on him. A woman who is determined to rely on a man for her happiness is like a child who refuses to behave responsibly; a frustrating burden. Your man should be your equal, and he should not be made to feel that you can’t live without him, especially when you obviously can get by on your own just fine.

A man will feel more comfortable dating you when he knows that you are capable of maintaining your shared household if something were to happen to him and he was not able to work. You obviously would not be productive if you are a clingy girlfriend following his every move. A man who admires independence in a woman will be turned off by your possessive behaviour. Focus on other things other than your boyfriend and develop a life that is not solely dependent upon him.

Being with somebody can be wonderful, but you need to be careful not to allow too much love to destroy your relationship. If you suspect that your clingy girlfriend behaviour is driving your boyfriend away, ask him to have a heart to heart discussion with you. Let your mate know that you want to move your relationship at a pace that is comfortable for both of you, and that you need him to be vocal about whether or not you are being too possessive of his time. Your man will surely appreciate your willingness to cooperate in the union. Work on having a loving and healthy relationship in which you both respect each others’ personal space and needs. Doing so will help the two of you to appreciate each other and draw closer to each other.

Akua is a Canadian born and raised girl with Caribbean roots. She is a journalist, actress, music teacher, performer, owner and marketer of 3 worldwide dating websites, as well as an independent Pure Romance business owner selling passion products for singles and couples.

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