An ideal date should be filled with laughter, good times, and the desire for more. If you want to keep that special woman in your life interested in you, you will need to make it a regular priority to impress her. Taking someone for granted is the number one death knell in a relationship falling apart.
By making your dates as fun and creative as possible, you will be giving your girlfriend more reasons to want to continue dating you. Here are 5 tips that will help you to become a master dater.
1. Find common interests
Hopefully, you have plenty in common with the woman who you want to impress. The only way to find out if you are compatible together is to ask her questions and create opportunities that will help you both to determine compatibility. It is not fun to date someone who wants to make all of the decisions about how a date should go.
Years ago, I went out on a date with a man who I had met online. That date was my first and my last date with that guy. That man took over the entire date; he made all of the plans without even asking me how I wanted to spend time getting to know each other. That experience was enough of an eye-opener to help me quickly realize that I do not want to be involved with any man who is controlling. An ideal date should be one in which both people are showing each other respect and are given equal opportunity to share their ideas. For instance, if your idea of a fabulous date is going to a pet store to play with dogs, and the person who you are dating is allergic to dogs, you should skip that idea altogether. Find something to do that you both enjoy doing, and focus on that.
2. Pay attention to her needs
A date in which your lovely lady is being pampered and taken care of will raise your value in her eyes. You can arrange for a couples massage for the two of you in a spa. Or, you could make a date night at home and give her a massage yourself.
Be sure to ask your girlfriend to reciprocate. Men and women will only understand each other when they create a pathway to communication. Relationships grow stronger when both people are equally invested in each others’ joys. When you give your girlfriend a massage, ask her if she would be willing to give you a massage as well. What the woman in your life really wants is open and loving communication with you. You can make that happen by letting her know multiple times that she can confide in you and count on you to make her needs a priority. After all, a date can happen anywhere, even at home. What is most important is that you and your partner are spending quality time together.What the woman in your life really wants is open and loving communication with you. Click To Tweet
3. Show good manners
Women can be as independent as they choose to be, but generally, they will be happy when you show good manners. Your girlfriend might not say anything at the time, but she will secretly be noticing and smiling inwardly when you compliment her dress or reach across the dinner table to hold her hand.
The ideal date is one where respect never needs to be questioned. I used to date a guy who I rarely wanted to be seen with because I was always afraid that he would embarrass me while we were in public. That man was extremely uncouth in both private and public settings, and he did not care who witnessed him making a fool of himself. How many women do you know are proud of men who embarrass them in public? Probably none. And, you know that you never want to reflect years from now and feel regrets about behaving like a fool on dates with someone who you truly love and admire. When you focus on respecting your girlfriend during dates, you will never feel any regrets. Watch her body language closely to determine whether or not she feels comfortable with how the date is going. If she seems uneasy at any point, adjust your behavior.
4. Make it fun
There are so many ways to make your dates fun and engaging experiences. You could propose a board game night and play games such as Clue, Monopoly or Scrabble with your girlfriend. Always remember that the ideal date involves warm communication, and you and your honey will bound to be laughing as you rival each other while playing. Learning how your partner strategizes will be an interesting experience itself!
Some other date ideas involving amusement are physical games that you can play, such as soccer, tennis, ping pong, and anything that gets the two of you strategizing and being active. If something calmer floats your boat, you could go to the library or to a museum together. Painting nights are becoming quite popular in my hometown when an art teacher presents a painting for each individual in the class to try to create on their own within a couple of hours with help from the teacher. Doing fun group activities with your girlfriend would make a great date night.
5. Leave room for more to explore
There is a saying in show business that you are only as good as your last performance. When early-stage dating and relationships are concerned, you are only as desirable as your last date. Are you making every effort to leave a positive lasting impression on your dates? From my own personal experience, I know that if a date did not go well, I do not want to go on another date with that person.
If you regret the way that you acted on past dates, start anew. Give your girlfriend a reason to want to see you again. You can suggest things that you would like to do together the next time that you meet. Always mention future opportunities for the two of you to connect again.
Good relationships are built one moment at a time with lots of layering. Think about how a Christmas tree looks before the ornaments are placed on it; the tree looks plain without the decorations. But one by one as you place ornaments on the branches, the tree starts to light up and dazzle. The ornaments help to transform a Christmas tree, and that is similar to what ideal dates will do for your relationship. Seek out every opportunity to make your dates fantastic experiences, and you will see your confidence, happiness, and romantic life change in a huge way.