stop looking for love

There is nobody on this planet who benefits from a lack of love. Having caring and genuine love in your life is very beneficial to a person’s emotional growth. There are many different types of relationships that we can form. Each relationship is like a snowflake; it’s completely unique to a separate relationship. Even within a family there are different bonds that develop between the family members; some members of a family are closer to some members than they are to others. When you want anything in life, you usually have to seek it out, and the same rule applies to love. However, there are a few benefits to putting your search for love on hold and just enjoying your life. Here is why you should stop looking for love and start living.

You can build deeper bonds with others

If you believe that money make the world go round, you are partially right. The economy helps people to contribute into other people’s lives as well as be productive. However, there would be no humans to contribute to the planet if there were no relationships to produce new people. We all earn a living from serving each other, and we need more people to keep the planet going. Thus, relationships make the world go round as well. Go out and build friendships with people. Sometimes, those friendships lead to deeper and more meaningful relationships.

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From those more meaningful relationships, you will build bonds. I like to share and receive ideas from people who I have built close bonds with. Some of those ideas that we’ve shared have inspired me to try and learn new things that have lead to me building even more personal and professional connections. You never know who you can meet, but nothing will change until something changes. When you make a change to your routine and you do different things than you usually do, you increase your chances of meeting different people.

You can figure some things out

Looking for a decent love match is literally like looking for a full time job. The problem is that if you already have a full time job, your job needs to take priority over finding love most of the time, and you can’t put one hundred percent of your focus on finding the right person.  Instead of focusing 100 per cent of your time on finding the right person, you can focus on finding yourself. Who are you underneath the labels that yourself and society have painted on you since you first learned how to speak?

There are so many labels that society puts on us and that we put on each other. From experience, I’ve learned that labelling ourselves and labelling other people creates too many limitations. The truth is that we are all meant to be unique, and we’re each put on this earth to learn from each other. Perhaps you need to get rid of the labels that have placed on you and that you’ve placed on other people so that you can be more prepared to receive the love that you seek. It’s not uncommon for a single person who has a very narrow-minded view of what they are looking for in a partner to reject a perfectly nice person as a potential partner simply because that person doesn’t fit a preconceived image of what a “perfect partner” should be.

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The pressure on finding someone is released

Creating a timeline can be a very useful way to work towards accomplishing your goals. However, if you’ve vowed that you would be in a new relationship within 30 days and 28 days have already passed since you first made that vow, then you will probably feel very discouraged about your quest for romance. When you decide to take a break from looking for love, you toss away the pressure on yourself to find someone.

Destiny doesn’t always work according to your timelines. When you put pressure on yourself to find someone compatible within a rigid timeline, you risk feeling disappointment. The last thing that you need during your love quest are feelings of disappointment because those feelings can lead to a lack of self confidence. Very few positive things take place when you have little confidence in yourself. Live your life and focus on being the best version of yourself that you can be.

The best time to meet someone is when you are looking and feeling your best. Self-improvement should be your main goal at all times whether you are in a relationship or not. Start living your life the best way that you know you can do it. Stretch yourself and push yourself to keep your focus on enjoying your season of being single while you live your life. Sometimes, stressing out about finding someone can paralyse your mind and mistakenly convince you that you will never be able to find what you’re looking for. When you enjoy your life and live it to the best of your ability, you’ll increase your chances of attracting the best suited people for you into your life. So stop looking for love and start living!

Akua is a Canadian born and raised girl with Caribbean roots. She is a journalist, actress, music teacher, performer, owner and marketer of 3 worldwide dating websites, as well as an independent Pure Romance business owner selling passion products for singles and couples.

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