Even though you might be asking yourself “Will I ever find love?” while feeling alone in your season of singleness, you are not the only person who has ever pondered whether or not being in a loving relationship will ever become a reality for you. It can be hard to feel hopeful about your odds of finding happiness with someone else, especially if you are coming out of a difficult breakup. When you are single, it seems as though everyone else you know is either in a happy relationship with the person of their dreams, or, they are cynical about love. How do you find a happy place where you can feel secure in knowing that you have reached the pinnacle of love? Here are some signs that there is hope for you to find the loving partnership that you are craving.
1. Each day is an opportunity
If you are reading this right now, then you are alive and able to make choices and experience new things. Every day above ground really is a good day, even if your situation seems hopeless. Today could be the day that you decide to start a new course, read a life-changing book, and experiment with a new hairstyle. What do those things have to do with finding love? Well, love happens when you are ready for it. When you work on enhancing yourself and your life, you are opening up your mind to new things.
A new love will only blossom when it is being nurtured and cultivated by two people who are willing and open to embrace their opportunities. Hope will never find you unless you are willing to allow it to be part of your thought process. Embrace each day and give each day a chance. Love might appear in your life by the end of the day today. Or, you might find the right person a week from now, or a month from now. There is excitement in knowing that your life can change for the better.
2. Plenty of others have found their soulmates
Other men and women have found their soulmates, and you will find your soulmate too. Last week, I was chatting with one of my adult music students, and she revealed to me that her sister who is in her early 40s and has children is currently very happy in her fourth marriage. My student’s sister is from the Middle East, she now lives in the United States of America, and she is also a highly educated woman; she has two PhD degrees.
Some people might be judgemental towards a person who has been married four times, but I see the glass as being half full instead of being half empty in these types of situations. I think it is wonderful when people decide to pursue love in spite of past disappointments. Sometimes, we all tend to make relationship decisions based on what feels familiar instead of on what is actually healthy for us. It is not uncommon for people to date people who remind them of their former flames, and they usually pursue people like that because they want to find a “happy ending” with someone and finish the story from the past relationship. However, it takes great courage to be determined about moving forward in an improved situation.
3. Your Intuition tells you to believe
Have you ever really listened to yourself? I enjoy listening to my thoughts and trying to figure out the clues that the universe sends to me. Each person has intuition, and some people have more intuitive abilities than other people. What is your intuition telling you about your love life today? If you think you can, you can, and if you think you can’t, you are right.
When was the last time that you had a positive and hopeful thought about love? If you are not regularly feeding your mind with good thoughts about relationships, then don’t expect to be in a happy union. Think about the saying “you are what you eat.” What you eat affects how you physically feel and how you look. Limit your time with people who are focused on negativity. What you tell yourself about love and life affects what you attract. Feed your mind positive and faith-filled thoughts, and you will attract better opportunities for yourself.
4. Lots of help is available
Once again, you are not alone in your longing for love! I truly believe that it takes a village to build a generation of people who take love and relationships seriously. There are counsellors, therapists, matchmakers, dating coaches, and plenty of other people who are willing to help those who are struggling with feelings of hopelessness.
Instead of keeping your emotions to yourself, seek out other people who can help you to see things in a different way. Perhaps you need to be taught on how to attract the love that you seek. If you want to date a loving, committed, and caring mate, then you need to be the type of person that you want to attract. Michael Jackson’s “Man In The Mirror” is a great song to listen to if you need a reminder about who can make the changes to your life that you want to see. Change starts with you.
5. You have all the tools you need
You are alive, you have a mission, and you have a purpose. When you want hope, you can find it. Reach out to others and be willing to learn. Your good and bad life experiences prepared you for this moment. This is the time when you can shine. Use what you have learned and carve out a better path for yourself.
Knowing that you are learning from your mistakes and are willing to break the cycle of bad relationship decisions is the greatest hope of all. When you encourage yourself and utilize your knowledge to introduce a new love into your heart, you are setting a wonderful example for yourself and for future generations. You might actually be someone else’s hope someday in the future because of the changes that you are willing to make today.
Who would you rather be, the person who is constantly lamenting about your past troubles, or the person who is encouraging other people to dream big and pursue their romance goals? Each time that I feel discouraged, I think about who I would rather be. It is much better to be the person who set the positive example for others. Hope starts by taking a step of faith in you and what you want to achieve. So next time you are questioning yourself “Will I ever find love?”, remember that there is hope for you if you allow the hope to blossom and bloom within you.