When you find someone special to spend your life with, it feels like a sweet victory. However, you will enjoy the victory even more when you feel assurance that your guy is as committed to being together as you are. Wanting a dream-like lasting relationship is totally fine, but if you want to actually have that dream come to life then you need to create a strategy to help you to achieve your goal. Just like how each person is unique, each relationship is unique and has specific needs to be fulfilled in order for the couple to feel successful in their partnership. Here are some tips on how to develop a fail-proof strategy for a lasting relationship.
Determine what your individual needs are
You cannot feel contented in a partnership if you do not first feel content as an individual. Do you greet each day with enthusiasm and look forward to fulfilling your purpose for the day? If not, you need to do some deep soul searching and figure out why you are not happy in your life. Could it be that you have unresolved emotions with regards to negative experiences you have had in your past? If so, you need to work on resolving those issues.
Take it from me; your partner does not want to be with someone who is unable to fully enjoy their life due to past incidents that haunt them. You probably do not want to be with a person who has emotional hang-ups either. Work on enhancing your life, and your partner will be grateful that you are focused on self-improvement. When your guy notices that you are in love with the idea of living the best life possible, he will feel more confident about building his life with you.
Make communication a priority
Without communication, the world we live in would never advance or improve. Similarly, your relationship will never advance and improve unless you and your boyfriend interact with each other. A relationship without communication is like an egg shell without yolk inside; it is empty and has no purpose. Do whatever you can to initiate communication with your love!
Communication does not always need to be endless verbal conversations. Simply holding hands is a way of communicating to your mate that you want to be close to him. Giving your partner a massage lets him know that you want him to feel stress-free and happy. Sharing a kiss is a way of communication as well; it lets your sweetheart know that you value the intimacy that you two share. When you make communication a priority, your bond will grow deeper and stronger.
Show your support as often as possible
I recently had a chat with a friend of mine who is a senior citizen, and she told me that another friend of hers divorced her husband decades ago because her husband was not supportive of her desire to get a degree and change occupations. The husband wanted his wife to stay home and mind their two young children, but this lady was determined to raise her children, work, and improve her education all at the same time, and she did just that; she raised two young sons while working in the daytime and getting a university education in the evening. This lady had gained her self-confidence, but she made the decision to let go of her marriage in order to do so.
Does your mate support your goals? If not, you need to ask yourself why you are with someone who does not ‘get’ you. Relationships are challenging enough, and you should not have to keep on maintaining a relationship with someone who does not want to see you achieve your goals. When your boyfriend ridicules or dismisses your dreams, you probably do not feel like sharing your heart with that person. Remember, communication is key to sustaining a loving union, and if you are not communicating because you feel that your needs will be ignored, your relationship will suffer.
You should be making an effort to show support towards your mate’s goals and dreams as well. Your mate wants your love and support to pursue his goals just as much as you want his support to accomplish your plans. Offer words of praise and encouragement when your partner reveals his hopes and dreams to you. Being supportive of each other will help your relationship to thrive!
Make him feel special
No one wants to be taken advantage of or treated like they are a burden. When was the last time that you made your guy’s favourite dish for dinner? How about the last time that you gave your boyfriend a sweet gift like his favourite pastry from Starbucks just because you wanted to let him know that you were thinking of him?
If you and your partner are stuck in a rut of living life in the same old daily routine day by day and you cannot remember the last time that you did something to show him how special he is to you, then you need to create a new routine in which you do sweet things to let your man know how special he is to you. Your guy will likely never want to leave you when he knows how much you value him. Neither of you should be taking each other for granted; make each day count!
Count your blessings, list them one by one. Those words to the well-known hymn “Count Your Blessings” should be echoing through your mind each day. Think about all of the blessings that you have in your life, and focus on how those blessings can help you to achieve even more positive experiences in your life and in your relationship. When you and your partner work together to enhance your lives, show each other support, and aim to increase your blessings, your relationship will grow stronger. The quality of your partnership is important, and utilising these tips will help you to build a lasting relationship.