Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, right? The classic saying hints at strife between the sexes. Astrology, however, brings more nuance to that age-old dilemma. There’s not just one type of man or woman.

If you are a Taurus woman considering a Virgo man (or the other way round), you may have heard that Taurus and Virgo are both earth signs. This gives you some common ground. However, the Zodiac signs of Taurus and Virgo are ruled by different planets. This brings some challenges to the Virgo man-Taurus woman couple. The woman is from Venus, but this man is from Mercury.

Emotional connection

The hard part about the emotional connection in a Taurus woman Virgo man couple is figuring out who will make the first move. Both of these earth signs are grounded in the physical world. Taurus and Virgo share that their first impulse is to solve problems practically rather than explore their emotional issues.

With guidance from a water sign partner like Cancer or Pisces, Taurus can grow comfortable with opening up over time. Taurus woman, ruled by Venus, has a capacity for warmth. However, she may express it by attending to her partner’s physical comfort more than by having a big heart-to-heart conversation.

A Virgo who has been through some trauma can come out the other end of it more articulate about emotions than the average man. A great example is the memoir Wild: From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail by Virgo writer Cheryl Strayed. It details her journey after her mother’s untimely death.

However, without that extreme motivation, the Virgo man sticks with what is most comfortable for him, like anybody else. Therefore, he tends to get trapped in a loop of relationship anxiety instead of articulating the more significant issues.

Taurus and Virgo share a common tendency toward inertia. If one can break through that to make the first move or circumstances make a move for them, they can open up.

In the meantime, the emotional connection between two earth sign people may not always look how it would for more emotional fire or water sign people. They may be okay with a quieter understanding.

A Virgo who has been through some trauma can come out the other end of it more articulate about emotions than the average man. Click To Tweet

Communication and intellect

The Virgo man and Taurus woman are more compatible as friends or co-workers than as romantic partners. They could enjoy each other’s company without the pressures of running a household together.

Taurus and Virgo have similar senses of humor. Both are more subtle than a wild Gemini or Leo having to be on the stage of entertainers. Instead, Taurus and Virgo see the funny side of daily life. However, a Virgo man may veer further into toilet humor than a Taurus woman.

The Virgo male can be indirect in his communication, while the Taurus female is likelier to come out and say what is on her mind. Taurus, as a fixed sign, gets caught being stubborn. Virgo, though, can be just as stubborn, and she is slippery enough to get away with it.

Each Zodiac sign is ruled by at least one of the planets. This can make a difference for Virgo and Taurus as communicators. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, which is the planet of communication. Mercury is also involved in the little to-dos of daily life, so Virgo is notorious for chattering at length about really petty stuff.

Meanwhile, Taurus is ruled by Venus, which makes her relax. The Taurus woman may enjoy peace and not know how to calm the Virgo man down when he worries out loud. Taurus can be a good listener, while Virgo goes on and on. Her presence will eventually calm him down.

The Virgo man Taurus woman are more compatible as friends or co-workers than as romantic partners. Click To Tweet

Trust

Trust between a Virgo man and a Taurus woman depends on a particular area. They generally trust each other not to have an affair. They both like security too much to go that route. They also both have enough earthy physicality to keep each other entertained.

The bigger issue between these two is money. The more separate their checking accounts can be, the better. The Virgo man will never trust the Taurus woman — or, for that matter, anyone else on this Earth — to be as careful with money as he thinks is warranted. He wants to nickel and dime every little thing. However, he does not look too closely into how much he spent on gas driving across town to get a slightly better deal at a different store.

Taurus women generally buy everything on their shopping lists at the store where they are already at. They do not feel bad about impulse-buying some candy on their way out, as they think we are here on this Earth to have fun once in a while. Then, they bring the goods home to their Virgo man and the fun ends.

The Taurus woman will be able to tell that the Virgo man doesn’t trust her with money. No one feels good in that kind of atmosphere of suspicion. A typical result is for the person continually accused of whatever crime, whether they did it, to finally commit the crime. The thought process, consciously or not, runs, “If I’m going to be treated like a criminal no matter what I do, I might as well have the fun of being one.” She, therefore, spends more, and he, thus, gets more upset.

Common values

Taurus and Virgo are earth signs, so they value material things. They are not likely to have a situation in which one of them quits a stable job to become a rock star, and the other has to deal with it. Both of them agree that it would be a bad idea.

Both are willing to work hard. However, Virgo and Taurus compatibility diverges from there. A Taurus woman works to live, while a Virgo man lives to work. Taurus is a “Work hard, play hard” type, while Virgo has trouble relaxing enough to play.

The Taurus woman will work as hard as she needs to afford the fun and luxuries she wants to have. She may have to work hard for that, as she may have a bigger appetite for fun and luxuries than some other signs. When she has enough to feel comfortable, she stops working and enjoys the fun and luxuries.

The sign of Taurus is ruled by Venus, which enjoys pleasure for its own sake. In an astrological chart, Venus represents money, love, and, more broadly, what a person values. In a sign ruled by Venus, values tend to be balanced: yes, work is important, but having a life is important, too.

However, for Virgo, no one could ever work hard enough to earn the fun and luxuries the Taurus woman feels she deserves. The Virgo man must continually justify his existence with work, even if it is just tasks around the house.

Mercury rules the sign of Virgo, which can result in an exhausting flurry of activity. You might wish he had a hobby that could serve as an outlet for some of this excess energy, but of course, he will say that joining the model train club is too expensive.

What isn’t too expensive, in the Virgo man’s estimation? The Taurus woman sometimes wants a nice dinner out, but of course, the Virgo man thinks that’s too expensive. Virgos also tend toward obsession with health issues, especially the idea that there is a dietary cure for everything. Whatever restaurant he thinks is affordable also has to go through the filter of whether he thinks their food is healthy enough. Not many places will pass Virgo man’s tests, so they will stay home and cook. The Virgo man then breathes down the Taurus woman’s neck because he thinks she put too much sugar in whatever she was cooking. This is the Taurus woman’s definition of hell.

Love compatibility between Taurus and Virgo can be improved. A Virgo man with Venus in Libra might not be as stingy as the general Virgo stereotype. A Taurus woman might be idealistic enough to overlook a Virgo partner’s more challenging qualities, which might even help him get some perspective after a while.

Taurus woman works to live, while Virgo man lives to work. Click To Tweet

Intimacy

Taurus and Virgo are both physical earth signs. The Taurus woman with the Virgo man might be able to use sexual intimacy to compensate for the other areas of their relationship that do not run smoothly.

Venus rules Taurus, and the Taurus woman secretly regards herself on some level as a goddess of Aphrodite’s stature. Her sexuality is strongly associated with her view of herself as a woman. Even if she has or wants to have children, her female power is not as maternal as it is sexual.

What does a Virgo man like in a Taurus woman? Well, who doesn’t fancy a woman with a high sex drive?

Mercury rules Virgo, and Mercury can be a little androgynous, combining masculine and feminine characteristics. For a heterosexual man, it’s more about being secure enough in his masculinity to branch out beyond the tough guy mold.

A Virgo man embracing his androgynous side seems young for his age. According to their birth certificates, the Taurus woman and Virgo man might be close in age. Still, Virgo could look and act young enough for her to feel like a cougar preying on him. This might be something unique that a Taurus woman likes about a Virgo man.

This dynamic is less pronounced when both partners are under thirty when they are relatively young to be recognized as such. When the Taurus woman gets older, though, looking like a cougar might get her some social status, which she would enjoy. This role-playing might also bring out a more fun side of the Virgo man in bed, which would help him lighten up and be less controlling.

The Taurus woman with Virgo man might be able to use sexual intimacy to compensate for the other areas of their relationship that do not run smoothly. Click To Tweet

Relationship challenges

The fundamental dilemma of Virgo man Taurus woman compatibility is one of the priorities around money, and this runs deep. Even if the Virgo man agrees to submit to the Taurus woman in their relationship, he will have a hard time letting her take over the finances and be his sugar mama. He feels the need to continually prove himself financially — even past the point that the security-oriented Taurus woman is interested, which is an achievement.

At worst, the Taurus woman can be shallow, concerned with her comfort in the present moment over the bigger picture. The Virgo man can’t see the bigger picture, either. Do you know the saying that someone can’t see the forest for the trees? Virgo can’t see the trees for the lichens, having lost any concept of the forest long ago. These two can, therefore, fight over some really petty stuff and lose perspective on it.

Epic fight potential in daily life could be when Taurus wants the house warmer for her comfort, but Virgo likes to keep it cold to save on the electric bill, and he thinks she should just put on a sweater.

If Taurus and Virgo were not sharing an electric bill, they might be good friends. If their views allow a friends-with-benefits situation, that could work. They can also function relatively harmoniously as co-workers.

It’s just that romantic relationships commonly escalate to living together. Taurus and Virgo have strong opinions about running a home and paying for the associated costs, and their visions clash. Neither is interested in compromise either.

Taurus and Virgo have strong opinions about running a home and paying for the associated costs, and their visions clash. Click To Tweet

Are Virgo and Taurus a good match?

Virgo man Taurus woman compatibility is lower than expected for two Sun signs of the same element. It is due to the difference in priorities brought about by the different planets ruling the signs. Taurus’s Venus values comfort, while Virgo’s Mercury always worries about something.

Considering which Taurus and Virgo represent Northern Hemisphere seasons also gives some perspective. Taurus falls in the middle of the spring when the growing season is still full of potential. Yes, work is important, but it’s okay to enjoy the warm weather and smell the flowers sometimes.

Meanwhile, Virgo falls at the end of the summer, when the growing season is on its way out. Virgo is associated with the harvest when you are called to account for whether you worked hard or slacked off throughout the growing season. The hope is that you have amassed enough produce to last you through the winter. This may be where Virgo’s mentality of scarcity and a sense of never having enough comes from.

Yes, both Taurus and Virgo deal with the Earth, but they have different experiences and diverse approaches. A hard thing about Virgo’s approach, founded in the old days of your harvest reflecting on you, is that he tends to believe whatever happens is under his control. For instance, if he has a medical issue, he agonizes over what flaw in his diet caused it, though more likely, there was nothing he could have done. It’s his out-of-control anxiety escalating to the point it has effects on his body. Getting Virgo to admit to being anxious can be tough, though.

Coming from a more abundant time of year, Taurus has a sunnier mindset. The downside is that Taurus can become complacent and even cross the line into being boring. Perhaps this hints at something that Taurus oddly finds attractive in Virgo. If you’re bored, he can make mountains out of the molehills of daily life more dramatically than even a Leo can. With shows like that, the Taurus woman might not even mind that her Virgo man told her they couldn’t afford Netflix, even though the math looks different.

If you are really determined to make this relationship work, the best approach is to examine other factors in both astrological charts to find common ground.

Whether or not the Taurus woman Virgo man couple has other planets in the air, signs of Gemini and Libra to defuse the tension, getting out of the earth element, in general, can bring a fresh perspective. If one or both of you have the Moon in a fire or water sign, that can unlock the door to more emotional expression.

Even if the other elements are not prominent in your astrological charts, you can still make an intentional effort to break out of your comfort zones. However, both people in the relationship have to want this and work toward it together.