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I am going through a tough time right now. My girlfriend and I have been together for a few years, we are best friends and soulmates and it feels like we belong together. However, when we started talking about our future, it appeared that she has a totally different vision. She is tired with her current job and needs changes in her life, so she wants to move abroad or even travel for a while living a few months in one place while I am happy with my current life and I was actually thinking of getting married and starting a family. She totally freaked out when I mentioned the possibility of having kids some time soon and she said she is not ready for that. It made me seriously thinking if this is going anywhere. Is she the one?
Hey Brian, Sorry to hear about your pickle. I’ll be honest with you and hopefully you find this helpful. However I must stress that these are merely my opinions. Is she the one? The simplest answer is that you likely need to part ways, at least for now. In my opinion, love is not enough. […]
My ex girlfriend was immature and after a while of dating her, I felt like I was going to work instead of having fun with her. We could basically never get on the same page with each other about what we liked, expected, wanted and didn't want. It got bad quickly. We also only saw each other a total of 6 or 7 visits. And every phone conversation we had after the first month or two felt nervous and new. It felt awkward. She drained me and made me cynical towards affection. After a few years in therapy figuring out who I am, I'm ready to at least try dating. How do I let myself chat and enjoy a girls company? How to start dating again?
It appears you have two issues challenging you. The first concerns your ex girlfriend. It does not seem that you two were on the same page. When you feel like you are going to work versus seeing your girlfriend, that’s a red flag. Relationships can be tricky, but when things do not line up seamlessly, […]
I am getting frustrated with dating. I try to be open and put myself out there and date different types of men, but I just can't seem to find someone who is the right fit for me. I continue to attract the wrong type and end up with people who are not a good fit. I want to end this vicious cycle. What am I doing wrong and what is the best way to fix it so I can find the right guy?
Samantha, I feel your pain. It can be challenging to find someone who is compatible with you. But, here are a couple of dating hacks which can help you find the right guy. I often advise my clients when they are feeling like they keep hitting the wall with dating the wrong type of person […]
As far back as I can remember, I've always known that I want children. I’ve been single for a while and now I feel ready for a long term relationship. Shall I make my potential dates aware of my stands regarding children right at the beginning or shall I wait until it all develops into something more serious?
Modern society puts women in a Catch 22 position. We are frowned upon when we have babies too young or if we wait too long to have kids because we cannot find the right partner. Monica, if you constantly keep on thinking “I want children”, you need to do some soul searching and determine what […]
I’ve been married for over 10 years and the romance seems to have died a long slow death. Basically the only time my partner and I spend together is flopped in front of the TV after the kids are in bed. With kids, jobs and keeping the house running we don’t have much time, money or energy for anything else. I’m terrified we will drift apart and end up divorced in years to come. I’ve suggested a regular date night to my partner but he wasn’t very interested. What can I do to get some of the old spark back?
Rest assured, it’s a very common problem. The good news is that there are some easy things you can do to rebuild the romance in a relationship. The bad news is that it will take some time if both of you aren’t actively trying. You have two choices with your approach. The first is that […]
My ideal man is someone who is strong, ambitious, emotionally as well as financially stable, caring guy who treats me as a woman and allows me to be vulnerable and cry in his arms when I need it. However, it became a pattern that I attract feminine men that are nothing but the opposite of my desired type: weak, clinging to me for emotional support, with various psychological issues and don’t have their lives sorted. I start mothering them and eventually crush them with my strong personality. How do I break this vicious cycle and find myself a manly man?
Steph, Great job on identifying the type of man you are looking for. There is a difference in attracting the ideal man versus getting into a relationship with him. You probably attract many men but don’t need to form a relationship with the type of men you don’t want long term. If you are not […]