Are you having some struggles in the dating department? Has your relationship encountered some obstacles or you are lacking clarity over particular topics? Send your dating or relationship question to us, and we will get one of our experts to help you out!
How to spice up a relationship
I’ve been married for over 10 years and the romance seems to have died a long slow death. Basically the only time my partner and I spend together is flopped in front of the TV after the kids are in bed. With kids, jobs and keeping the house running we don’t have much time, money or energy for anything else. I’m terrified we will drift apart and end up divorced in years to come. I’ve suggested a regular date night to my partner but he wasn’t very interested. What can I do to get some of the old spark back?
Rest assured, it’s a very common problem. The good news is that there are some easy things you can do to rebuild the romance in a relationship. The bad news is that it will take some time if both of you aren’t actively trying. You have two choices with your approach. The first is that […]
Finding the ideal man
My ideal man is someone who is strong, ambitious, emotionally as well as financially stable, caring guy who treats me as a woman and allows me to be vulnerable and cry in his arms when I need it. However, it became a pattern that I attract feminine men that are nothing but the opposite of my desired type: weak, clinging to me for emotional support, with various psychological issues and don’t have their lives sorted. I start mothering them and eventually crush them with my strong personality. How do I break this vicious cycle and find myself a manly man?
Steph, Great job on identifying the type of man you are looking for. There is a difference in attracting the ideal man versus getting into a relationship with him. You probably attract many men but don’t need to form a relationship with the type of men you don’t want long term. If you are not […]
Setting boundaries
The guy that I met on a dating site recently attempted to make a move on the first date. I tried setting boundaries by telling him that I am not in the mood for one night stands. A few days later he asked me out again that I took as a sign he sees something more in me than just a hook up material. I was way more relaxed and we kissed, but then he texted me suggesting to be ‘just friends’. He is a fun person to be around with and while I value his friendship, I am attracted to him physically so now things are a bit awkward. I enjoy his company and I wouldn’t mind taking things further, it just seems that he is not interested in me as in a woman any more and he friendzoned me irreversibly. Have I done the wrong thing trying to slow things down and get to know each other before jumping to bed?
Dear Lauren, it appears Mr. One-Night-Stand isn’t looking for a relationship based on the information you have provided. Here is why: First, he tried to make a move on the initial date without learning about who you are. Trying to hook-up on the same night you meet in real life is a good sign he […]
How to banter
I simply don't know how to say the flirty things to women in a genuine, authentic and playful way. No words come to me during chit-chat that resemble flirting or bantering. Using canned lines isn't a way I'd like to go. I realise this is important, but I don't know how to start flirting with women without it being awkward or accidentally creepy. If you have any suggestions on how to get better at flirting I would really appreciate it.
I have a quick and easy way to find your flirt and learn how to banter without coming across as creepy. But first I want to give you a mini lesson on banter so that you get a full understanding of what it is and why it’s so important to women. Bantering is defined as “The […]
Dating a younger man
I’ve stared dating a younger man and things seem to be simply amazing: we share similar views and values, have the same sense of humour, respect each other and have lots of fun together. He said that he feels happy with me and so do I. In fact, this may be the most rewarding relationship I’ve ever been in. However, when I brought up the topic of our potential future together, he became very hesitant and even suggested we keep our relationship open which was totally unexpected to me. I am 6 years older and ready for a commitment, while he hints he needs more time to think about it. I don’t want to push things, but waiting around until he makes up his mind let alone dates other women to convince himself if he wants to be with me does not feel right. What should I do?
Dating a younger man is quite a dilemma that you find yourself in! You have met a nice guy who you feel comfortable with and who you envision building a future with, and you want to drive the relationship with him forward while he wants to slam on the brakes. This is a man who […]
Talking to women without being creepy
I can talk to women in bars (where it’s expected) but often I’ll see a really attractive woman in a store or a café that I’d love to meet. How can I do this without being creepy?
Firstly, the fact that you’re concerned about being creepy is already a great start. It means that you’ll approach the situation with care and social intelligence. I recommend my clients to always start talking to women with “Excuse me …” I believe this gets the woman’s attention and gives her a moment to register you […]
