when a guy texts you everyday what does that mean

Recently, a friend of mine came to me with a problem. “I’ve met a new guy, and he texts me every day,” she said, looking overwhelmed and unsure. “What’s up?” I asked. I thought she’d be thrilled that a new guy in her life was texting her every day. Gosh, I’m sure there are plenty of women who would love to be her! Instead, she continued to look pensive: “Well, he texts me every day, does he like me? When a guy texts you everyday what does that mean?”

My first instinct was to scream from the rooftops, “of course he likes you! What is wrong with you?!” But after sipping some of my mocha and carefully mulling the question over, I realized why my friend looked so concerned. I thought about myself and how I’d react if I had a new man in my life who texted me every day. I’d probably have the same questions as my friend: does he genuinely like me, or does he text a whole load of other girls every day, too? To get to the bottom of this annoying little question, we’re going to look at a few possible scenarios and discuss how to tell if a guy likes you over text.

1. He is afraid of being tied down

Texting can be an easy way out for a man who has commitment issues. He doesn’t have to meet up or call—he can just deluge you with texts. For him, there is a distance between the two of you, and he’s under no pressure to call this a relationship. For some men, texting is a sort of safety net. If he doesn’t want a full-on relationship, he can satisfy himself by texting you instead. He still gets pleasure from the conversation, and perhaps even brags about this ‘relationship’ to his buddies. Then, when he’s had enough, he can turn off the tap.

Remember that you aren’t just some guy’s entertainment—you deserve more than that! You deserve a guy who is invested in you and wants to build a relationship. If he doesn’t suggest meeting up after a few weeks of texting, either cut your losses or invite him to join you and your friends for an activity (something you are going to, regardless if he’s there or not).

2. He is using you to boost his ego

You might not be the only one on his radar. Some guys have an arsenal of girls on tap that they text, email, and call each day. They don’t want to get involved with any of them on a serious level. They just like knowing that they’re all there, ready to answer at the drop of a hat. A “player” might text you every day, but you never know who else he is texting.

“Why is he still texting me if he’s not interested?” you might ask. For some men, this is an ego boost. Some men even brag to their buddies about how many girls text them. It might sound demeaning, but it happens. Today he might send Sandra a text, while tomorrow he might be in the mood to talk to Alice. If you sense that this might be the case, try not to melt when the guy says he misses you—he might not really mean it. He expects to hear the same thing from you that will stroke his ego before he texts somebody else to say the same thing.

You might not be the only one on his radar. Some guys have an arsenal of girls on tap that they text, email and call each day. Click To Tweet

3. Texting is his favorite hobby

I have known lots of guys who simply love texting. They would send me texts about all kinds of things, from music to film, to travel, to dreams to flirty banter, to the usual chit-chat, such as “how are you today?” and “sleep tight.”

Then I realized that these guys didn’t really dig me that much, and the messages didn’t mean anything in particular—they just enjoyed the act of texting girls. One of the guys turned out to be texting at least five other women during the same period. And just like he was swamping me with texts, he was also swamping them with texts.

If this is the case, then listen to your gut. We usually have a pretty good feeling about someone’s true intentions. Does it feel like he’s playing you, or is he really just super busy?

4. He’s a shy guy

Suppose he is putting thought and creativity into his texts and investing himself in the messages he sends you. In that case, this might mean that he is a shy guy. This is your chance to go ahead and take the lead. Suggest a phone call, by texting something like “You have such a sexy voice, would love to chat sometime soon…” or invite him for a walk so you can have a chat with him. If he ignores your request to hang out and just keeps texting you poetry and sonnets, you might have a great pen pal, but a lousy boyfriend. Decide what you want.

Don’t be afraid to take a peek at his social networks. Does he have friends? What does he like to do? Is he out partying at 3 am or spends all the evenings inside with a book and a cup of tea? Do your research to determine what kind of personality he is.

If he ignores your request to hang out and just keeps texting you poetry and sonnets, you might have a great pen pal, but a lousy boyfriend. Click To Tweet

5. He wants to sext or receive nudes

Let’s be honest, most guys are pretty horny a lot of the time. When texting with guys, it is common for girls to get more than they bargained for in a conversation that started out innocent! This can range from everyday flirting to more explicit sexual messages. If you’re into sexting, have fun, but if you have given no indication that you want the conversation to head in this direction, he should respect that.

It is important to remember that a guy should never send you explicit text messages or images without asking your permission first. If a guy does this, don’t feel bad about simply deleting his number or blocking him. If he is more respectful, he may gradually increase his messages’ flirtatiousness to test your boundaries. If you want to get involved in sexting, that’s fine; just make sure that there is respect on both sides.

6. He is lonely

man texting on his phone

Sometimes people text simply because they are lonely and want someone to talk to. Socializing is very important for our mental health and sense of wellbeing. There may be no motive behind his messages other than the desire for conversation. Perhaps he lives on his own and doesn’t have many friends.

If this is the case, you should consider if you want to keep texting daily with somebody who wants nothing more than some company. If this sounds good to you, why not enjoy having a new pen pal to chat with? However, if you are interested in this guy romantically, you may not want to simply talk about the weather. If you are interested in more than just chatting, you should probably let him know. Don’t torture yourself by allowing feelings to develop for someone who doesn’t see you that way.

7. He is bored

Boredom may lead to decisions that we may not otherwise make and affect our texting patterns. It may be the case that a guy texts you every day just as something to do to kill time. However, while boredom may have caused him to text you, this doesn’t necessarily mean that he does not like or respect you in any way. Most of us don’t go out of our way to have conversations with people we dislike, even if we are bored.

Texting frequently (whether once or even dozens of times every day) during certain periods and then stopping completely at other times is a sign that the guy only texts when he has nothing else to do. While he might go quiet when he is busy, he will probably make you aware of this and put in some effort to contact you at least once every few days or so if he is interested in you. If a guy doesn’t text you for a week after blowing up your phone for days, something or someone else may have grabbed his attention.

If a guy doesn't text you for a week after blowing up your phone for days, something or someone else may have grabbed his attention. Click To Tweet

8. He looks up to you

Guys don’t only send texts to people they are friends with or have a crush on. There are many different reasons that a guy might be texting you every day. Check out the content of his text messages to you—is he saying things that he thinks might impress you?

If this is the case, he may be trying to impress you because he has a crush on you, but another less obvious reason may be that he looks up to you as a superior. Think of how you know him—do you know him through work or a mutual hobby or interest? It may be the case that he sees you as an example or even a role model in some way. I remember once receiving daily texts from a guy in my local amateur dramatics group and wondering if he had a crush on me. After asking a mutual friend if this was the case, I discovered the truth: he admired my acting skills and wanted to improve his craft!

9. He is physically attracted to you

woman in a hammock with a phone texting

While he may not necessarily know you well enough to have a full-blown crush on you, he may be attracted to you sexually. From a guy’s perspective on texting, he may have seen you and think, “wow, she’s hot, I’d like to get to know her better!” He may want to know if he has an attraction beyond the physical and is trying to start a conversation with you to find out.

A physically attracted guy may be interested in getting to know you to find out if the two of you would be a good dating match. On the other hand, he may be looking for a more casual relationship or even just a roll in the hay! There’s nothing wrong with this as long as he is respectful and honest instead of pretending to have other motives. If you aren’t interested in him back, let him know.

10. He is obsessed with you

Whether he likes you as a friend, a crush, or sees you as a potential sexual partner, his keen interest can develop into an unhealthy obsession. If he texts you every day despite you trying to hint—or even telling him outright—that you are not interested in him, this is something to be concerned about. While many of us have been infatuated with people before, most know not to cross boundaries with inappropriately frequent or intense texts.

Unfortunately, not everybody knows how to do this. A vast number of women (and some men) have stories of people who won’t leave them alone and, in some cases, even stalk them. This has the potential to put your safety at risk and should not be ignored. Even if you secretly like a guy back, if he does not take “no” for an answer and keeps contacting you even when you don’t text back, this is a bad sign, and you should cut contact with him. You are under no obligation to answer texts if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.

If he texts you every day despite you trying to hint—or even telling him outright—that you are not interested in him, this is something to be concerned about. Click To Tweet

11. He wants to be good friends with you

How guys text when they like you as a friend is often different from how they text if they have a sexual or romantic attraction to you. If he texts you every day, he clearly likes you—that is unquestionable. What may be less clear is in what way he likes you. While some people say that men and women can never be just friends, the truth is that there are plenty of platonic friendships between the sexes.

The content of his texts may indicate whether he likes you as a friend or as something more. Guys’ texting behavior is usually different between friends and love interests. There may be some overlap—asking how you have been if you have weekend plans, or sending you funny or interesting videos are all things that guys do with both friends and crushes, but there are some signs that you are squarely in the “friend zone.” If he is overly honest about things that may be considered unattractive, mentions attraction to other girls, or even gives you dating advice, he may like you just as a friend. This can either be a bad or a good sign depending on your feelings for the guy.

12. He has a crush on you

he texts me every day

How guys text their crush can be different from how guys text their friends. If you are speaking face-to-face, you can often look at his body language to see if he shows signs of attraction. Sometimes you can even tell through body language if a guy is fighting his feelings. If he has a crush on you, you may notice that his messages are slightly different from how others text you. This may be blatant and obvious straight away but is sometimes more subtle and gradual.

So, how do guys text when they like you romantically? There are various signs to look out for. Using a lot of emojis can be a sign of trying to flirt, showing an unusual amount of interest in what you have to say and how you feel. Trying to impress you can also be a sign of attraction—if he shares achievements with you, this may be the case. Texting back very quickly can also be a sign that he is hanging on your every word, although in some cases, he may just be by his phone a lot! The same goes for texting late at night. “Good morning” texts are another sign that you are one of the first things that he thinks about when he wakes up. When a guy texts you in the morning, it is likely he is into you.

If a guy has a crush on you, this could either be a good sign or a problem depending on if you like him back in that way. Learning how to tell if a guy likes you through text is one thing—deciding what to do about it is another!

Find someone who’s on the same page

It is important to remember that texting is a convenient (and cheap) thing to do. It literally takes just a few seconds to compose and send a short message—and he can do it from anywhere at any time. He can fire off a text from a dentist’s waiting room, a bus, or even from the bathroom. It requires minimal effort from a man to text you every day.

So how to tell if a guy likes you through texting? If he is just sending you mundane, cookie-cutter-type messages, he might be a serial texter and nothing more. Texting for some guys is a way to keep a girl interested—to hook her in, so to speak. But the reality is that they don’t really have any long-term goals. They text because it’s effortless, but they might shy away from investing in making an actual real relationship work. You might want to move from texts and into something tangible, while he might not.

If he is just sending you mundane, cookie-cutter type messages, he might be a serial texter and nothing more. Click To Tweet

Don’t let this be you

“He texts me every day, does he like me?” is not an easy question to answer, because each man has a different motive. But what’s obvious is that his intentions are unclear, and this should be a deal-breaker in and of itself.

Again, this sounds super demeaning. If a man is texting you daily without asking to meet or pushing the “relationship” in any sort of direction, this might mean that he is keeping you hanging on just in case he decides you’re all he’s got.

You deserve someone singing from the same hymn sheet as you and whose intentions are as clear as crystal. Trying to work out what a man wants can be difficult and time-consuming. If you meet a guy you like who texts you every day but isn’t moving the relationship forward, I would call it a day and move on.

How often should a guy text if he likes you

There is no hard-and-fast rule on how often a guy will text you if he likes you. There are many factors involved in how often someone texts, such as how busy they are with work or other commitments, or how much they enjoy the text message format. Some guys text a lot out of habit, regardless of how close they feel to you. Other guys are impossible to get hold of unless you’re the one who is really his priority.

Generally speaking, the best way to know if a guy likes you is if he texts you as much as or more than you text him. A good relationship involves both people putting equal effort into the conversation, whether that is a couple of texts a week or hundreds every day. Taking it in turns to text first is an excellent way to make sure you are both interested in each other.

Now you know how to decipher whether a guy likes you or not, and in what way, it is up to you how to respond. Whether you have a crush on him, don’t like him at all, or like him only as a friend, the best thing to do is to be upfront and honest. A good man will respect whatever feelings you express and whatever decision you make.

Now you know how to decipher whether a guy likes you or not, and in what way, it is up to you how to respond. Whether you have a crush on him, don’t like him at all, or like him only as a friend, the best thing to do is to be upfront and honest. A good man will respect whatever feelings you express and whatever decision you make.

Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through flirty texting. To read more by Claudia, visit Text Weapon. Don't forget to signup for the free Texting Club trial with over 300 messages. You can also hit her up on Twitter.

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