Surefire Signs He Is Fighting His Feelings For You

signs he is fighting his feelings

I’ve had guys fighting their feelings for me before. Once, I had two guys sending me signals at the same time. However, they both acted utterly different. One guy was a bit more evident while the other one was a little harder to figure out. I will share my observations about surefire signs that he’s fighting his feelings for you.

1. He stares at you

When I say he stares at you, I’m not referring to that creepy, stalkerish kind of stare. You’ll know what I mean when you see it. It has a sweet and innocent look to it, soft, gentle, and happy all at the same time. He also will be flashing some pearly white teeth at you, so I suppose what you are looking for is that dreamy, prince charming type of stare.

It’s also worth noting that you may only catch a short glimpse of him staring at you. Why is that? Quite simply, men get super embarrassed when they are caught in the staring act. As soon as they see that you noticed them staring at you, they will instantly retreat, look away, and act as if nothing happened.

It is typical behavior of shy men. Now, there are men like my husband that are opposite: they might go out of their way to make sure that you know that they were staring at you. They usually don’t have intentions of creeping you out, they want you to notice them, but they don’t know how to express that in words.

However, this could also be a red flag, as some men are just looking for a “hit and run.” Make sure you analyze the situation a little more before diving headfirst into cold water.

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2. He is protective

If a man is protective of you, that’s probably one of the most obvious signs that he likes you or at least cares for you. Having an older brother and my dad around taught me a lot about this.

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Furthermore, it’s only a natural part of a man’s genetics for him to be protective of the women in his life that matter the most to him. Heck, this is even evident by watching the way male animals protect their females on Animal Planet.

3. He’s either attentive or ignoring

Typically, when a guy has a crush on you but is trying to hide it, he will treat you very nicely. He won’t bring up other girls around you, and he will even go as far as focusing on you entirely. However, depending on the day or the mood he is in, he may resort to ignoring you completely. He may come across as being cold and detached. Rest assured, this is likely not the case.

Probably he has realized that by spending so much time with you, he has given himself away. As a result, he ends up pulling himself away, possibly out of fear that he may get hurt or because he worries that you don’t have the same feelings for him.

4. He gets jealous

You may wonder, what right does he have to feel jealous of you talking about other guys around him? I mean, it’s not like you guys are dating or anything. Well, here’s the thing. The reason why he would be jealous about you talking about other guys is not related to the guy you’re talking about, but more to him. In simpler words, he’s insecure.

Think about it for a second. If you bring up another guy in your conversation, the message that you are sending to your admirer is: “Oh gee, this girl is out of my league. If she’s talking about how awesome this guy is, I guess I don’t stand much of a chance.” It tends to be a more common train of thought among men that are shy or have low self-esteem. Perhaps this guy has been hurt in the past, and therefore he’s a bit more cautious about pursuing a serious relationship.

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5. He listens to what you have to say

Generally, men are not really into conversation. At least not on the same level of conversation that women are. Most men tend to politely zone out when a woman is saying something to him that either bores him or annoys him. However, if he happens to like the girl that is talking to him, he will take an extra initiative to listen to what she has to say.

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The reason for this? Quite simply, you are someone of interest to him. Anytime someone interesting starts talking to you, you would be all ears too!

6. His body language gives him away

Body language speaks louder than words. However, just like everyone has a different personality, they also have a different way of expressing their feelings through their body language.

Some men might trip over themselves and suddenly become clumsy when they see you while other men might stumble over their words. However, both signs are indicators that a guy likes you.

7. His friends tease him

If the guy has told his friends about his crush, they may start teasing him as soon as you walk into the room. When this happens, he may respond to his friends in a certain way. For example, he might blush and become embarrassed. Another possibility is that he may even yell at his friends or become angry or annoyed with them.

8. He buys you things

It’s not about the cost of the gift that he buys you, but about the type of gift. Good friends and coworkers buy little gifts for each other because they are genuinely concerned for you and are looking to cheer you up, or there is a special occasion.

If a guy buys you a pretty necklace, bracelet, watch, candy, or flowers, that’s a typical sign that he is trying to reveal his feelings for you through his actions. Now, if he buys you a bag of your favorite chips, it could be a sign that he has a crush on you, but he’s not quite ready to admit it yet.

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9. He seems nervous around you

Men do get nervous when they are in the presence of a girl that they like. For instance, when a guy is sitting across from you, watch to see if his legs start bouncing around.

Another thing to look for is fidgeting. Does he touch his face a lot? Does he keep fiddling with his hands? The only reason he acts like that is because he wants to make a good impression, but he isn’t sure what to say or how to behave.

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10. He tries to impress you

Another sign that a guy likes you is that he tries to impress you. Again. Animals, for instance, have a method of courting one another. In many bird species, the male is often the one with the most colorful feathers. The reason for this is so that the male can attract a female mate.

The same can be said about humans. Maybe he wants to impress you with his new car or with his driving skills. Whatever the case may be, don’t necessarily assume that the guy is cocky. Maybe it’s all just a façade to win over your attention.

And there you have it. Those are ten signs that a guy is fighting his feelings for you. If you want to pursue this guy, be patient, and give him a chance to open up with you. He may turn out to be a real keeper!

Brittanie is a southern belle born and raised in North Carolina. She of British, Irish and Filipino descent, and she is married to a Filipino man. Brittanie has learned quite a bit about marriage and relationships. She shares her advice on her blog Britta’s Walk the Talk.


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