As your relationship continues to grow, you might find yourself wondering just how serious it is. Sure, you might have been dating your boyfriend for a while, but when you are close to someone, it can be difficult to see what is right in front of you. If you aren’t sure how to know if a guy loves you, here is a list of unmistakable signs he loves you deeply.
1. He listens to you attentively
One of the most common signs a man loves you deeply is when he listens intently to you whenever you speak. He is always present in the conversation, and he is interested in your views on each topic. This means that he wants to get to know your world and that the things that you have to say matter to him.
If he not only listens to what you say but also acts on your advice and takes it, this is another sign that he values you and your opinions.
It is easy for any of us to listen to people when they praise us, but taking criticism is much more difficult! If your man takes criticism with humility and wants to be the best for you, he wants to make your relationship work.
2. He knows your favorite food
Knowing your favorite foods shows that he listens to and remembers things that you tell him, and has most likely made a note of this to surprise you with them as a treat or when you need cheering up.
When he brings you your favorite cupcakes every weekend, he is obviously trying to impress you. How sweet is that (pun intended)?
Knowing your favorite snacks and meals is one of the signs he truly loves you and values your relationship.
3. He checks to see if you are smiling
Checking your facial expressions is a sign that he loves you and cares about your well being. A man who cares about you will always want to make sure that you are happy and having fun during any shared activity, from watching a movie to grocery shopping.
A guy who loves you will want to make you laugh and smile at things that he does. Does he enjoy watching you smile after he does something cute? It only confirms he has warm feelings for you.
Another thing to look out for is his reaction to when you are not smiling or look unhappy. If he asks how you are or changes his behavior, he is dedicated to your happiness.
4. He walks on the roadside of the sidewalk
Walking on the roadside of the sidewalk may seem like a strange way of showing love, but it is actually a common thing to look out for.
Men are hardwired to protect their loved ones, even if it means putting themselves in potential danger. While this is usually not as extreme as fending off attackers or diving in front of a bullet for you, this instinct may well show up in more normal daily interactions such as walking along the sidewalk.
If he is always walking on the dangerous side of the road, he wants to make sure you are safe. He may have a caring personality, but he wouldn’t do it for somebody who’s unimportant to him.Men are hardwired to protect their loved ones, even if it means putting themselves in potential danger. Click To Tweet
5. He makes sure you’re comfortable
As well as offering protection from danger, providing comfort to loved ones is another natural instinct. This can be expressed in various ways.
Sometimes a guy might offer you his jacket, so you don’t get cold. He’ll bring you blankets or switch seats with you. Surely, he wants you to be comfortable, but there is more to it. Putting your comfort before his own is one of the most common signs he cares deeply about you in every moment.
In some cases, making sure you’re comfortable involves cuddling up to you and holding you tight. In others, it may mean giving you plenty of personal space! If you can get yourself a man who can do both, you’ve hit the jackpot!
6. He tries to please you
Listening attentively to you and caring about your comfort and happiness usually leads to specific actions and behaviors. He will want to please you in little ways as well as with grand gestures.
If he lets you sit in your preferred spot on the couch or books your favorite table in the restaurant, he knows you well, and he tries to make you happy in every way possible.
While many men will do these things during the early stages of dating, while they are still trying to impress you and “win you over,” a man who continues to do these generous things throughout the relationship is likely a man who truly loves you!
7. He does things you want to do
Musicals or theatre performances might not be his thing, but he’ll do it for you. Your company is what matters to him, and he is ready to sacrifice his interests.
If your “manly” man is happy to take you to a chick flick without complaining, or your STEM-studying boyfriend takes you to an art gallery, he loves you very much.
A guy who respects your interests (even if they don’t align with his own) is a keeper! However, it is important to remember that it goes both ways—you should do the same for him and respect his interests as much as he respects yours if you want a healthy lasting relationship.
8. He stares into your eyes
It may seem a cliche, but there is definitely truth in this one. We’ve all seen those classic romantic movie moments where the protagonist first catches the eye of their love interest, usually accompanied by a pretty soundtrack!
If he is staring lovingly into your eyes while you are having a conversation or sitting at the dinner table, it means you are something special for him.
Not only looking deeply into your eyes is one of the signs that he’s in love with you, but it also strengthens the bond in your relationship.
9. He puts effort into his appearance
It may seem obvious that being attracted to someone and wanting to impress them often leads to wanting to look your best. However, this does not just apply to guys at the club who want to seduce you and take you home for the night—it often applies to guys you have already been dating for a while!
While getting more comfortable inevitably leads to more lying around together in sweatpants, a guy who loves you will sometimes want to look his best for you just because.
He might start wearing that cool shirt more often or use your favorite cologne. Science confirms that this indicates he’s in love.
10. He finds joy in your joy
Indulging in your interests that he may not share himself is one of the signs he loves you. However, this is not just because he wants to impress you or “prove himself”—a guy who loves you will genuinely find pleasure in your happiness.
He likes the things that you like, not because you like it, but because it makes him excited to see you happy.
If you catch your guy smiling like an idiot after watching you laugh at your guilty pleasure TV show, he could be well and truly smitten with you!
11. He introduces you to his friends
When a man loves you deeply, he will want you to be included in every part of his life. Introducing you to his pals is a sign that he sees you playing a big role in his future!
If you get to meet his mates, the chances are that this is serious. He wouldn’t bring you around otherwise. Even if you don’t have much in common with his pals, he will most likely want you to meet them at least once if he is serious about your relationship.
Of course, if you end up having plenty in common with his buddies, you can even end up making them your friends too, which is an added bonus!
12. You catch him looking at you
It makes sense that we want to look at those we love. This is not necessarily the same as “checking you out” (although he probably does that plenty too!)—it can be more complex and intimate.
We like to look at people we find attractive, but we also like to observe little things about those we love, such as small mannerisms and facial expressions.
If the guy is always looking in your direction, he admires you. Words are not necessarily needed for this to be obvious.
13. He takes care of you when you’re sick
There is a reason traditional marriage vows include “in sickness and in health.” It is easy to be with someone when they are healthy and full of life, but taking care of a sick person requires dedication and care that no one who isn’t that into you is likely to show!
Whether he holds your hair back in the bathroom or brings you soup, if he takes care of you when you feel awful, you mean a lot to him.
If you don’t get sick very often, a good way to predict how your boyfriend will treat you in the future is to look at his behavior towards you when you are on your period. If he is quick to offer to bring you a hot water bottle, a glass of water, or run you a warm bath, this is a good sign.Whether he holds your hair back in the bathroom or brings you soup if he takes care of you when you feel awful, you mean a lot to him. Click To Tweet
14. He is proud of you
People who love you are proud of you when you accomplish something. If he celebrates your success with you, he genuinely cares.
Whether he says “well done” and gives you a hug when you get a promotion at work or buys expensive champagne, showing pride in your achievements is one of the signs he loves you deeply.
Mentioning your achievements to other people that he knows, such as his friends and family, is a clear sign that he is proud of you and wants the world to know it!
15. He tries new things with you
Falling in love is a powerful chemical rush of adrenaline and excitement that can energize you and make you feel like you can achieve anything. It is common for people to behave in ways that they usually wouldn’t when they fall in love with someone, including trying new activities.
As well as the chemical explanation, entangling your life with that of someone else often makes us want to experience new things that they can show us!
If he is willing to go out on a limb and try something completely new (even if it means getting out of his comfort zone), it shows that he’d be up for any adventure with you.
16. He lets you win
We all like to win, but sometimes he lets you have victory. Whether it’s an argument or sport, if he concedes, it means you are more important to him than his competitive ambitions.
Research suggests that men are more competitive than women, so letting you win may be even more out of his comfort zone than it would be out of yours! A guy willing to take this on the chin probably respects you and values your company over his pride.
Of course, in some cases, a man might claim that he “let you win” when you won fair and square!
17. He creates you playlists
Back in the mists of time when tape cassettes were all the rage, making a mixtape of songs was almost a rite of passage for any young man trying to woo a girl!
Despite music going digital, not much has changed. If he is excited to share his favorite music with you, this is the equivalent of a mixed tape. Listen to those songs carefully as they probably are indirect messages on how he feels.
While the music he sends you might not necessarily be love songs, making you a playlist clearly shows you two things: he has plenty of thoughts about you and wants to impress you.
18. He has your back
Relationships aren’t all fun and games. While it is easy for a man to be by your side for the fun times, guys who are less devoted to you will likely disappear when life throws obstacles in your way.
Sometimes you might need a little extra support. If he recognizes that and is there to comfort you when you lose your job or argue with family and friends as well as be there for you on a fun Friday night out, he is in it for the long haul.
A man who loves you will want the best for you and stick by you through thick and thin.
19. He lets you have the last bite
Sharing the last bite with you may seem like a fairly inconsequential gesture or simply basic politeness, but it could actually be one of the signs that he loves you.
Providing food for loved ones is a deeply primal instinct. Letting you have the last bite of shared food is a sign that he cares more about your pleasure than his own (which is a good sign in other departments too).
Did he let you finish the last bit of his cheesecake in the coffee shop? It is the best way to show that he’d share anything with you.
20. He encourages you
A loving partner fulfills many roles, one of these being a source of motivation for you.
A sign your boyfriend loves you deeply is when he encourages you to live your best life, even if it is hard work or difficult in the short term. This is because he feels invested in your future and wants to be part of it!
When you have something to do, and you don’t want to do it, he roots for you. You can be sure he’ll support you no matter what.
21. He’ll give you a lift in bad weather
Did you get stranded in a shopping mall when a thunderstorm started? When he drives across town just to give you a lift home, this is a great representation of love.
Your man doesn’t have to be able to drive to help you out here. If he books a taxi for you or shows up with an umbrella to walk you home safe and dry, this is a sign of devotion. When a man loves you deeply, he will want to do anything for you!When he drives across town just to give you a lift home, this is a great representation of love. Click To Tweet
22. People know you
When your guy is always talking about you and his friends know you before you have even met them, you play a prominent role in his life. We often find ourselves talking about the person we are falling in love with, and your friends have probably noticed you doing the same.
While you may think that men traditionally are less likely to share these details with their family and friends, this does happen when a man truly loves you. If a guy is willing to risk getting roasted by his pals for showing his obsession with you, you clearly mean a lot to him!
Of all the signs your boyfriend loves you deeply, this is one of the surest to look out for.
23. He knows how you like your coffee
Never underestimate the importance of a good cup of coffee. Knowing exactly how you like your coffee or tea is not only a sign of familiarity but also a sign that he has taken care to remember how you like things. If he knows how much milk you want in yours, it’s probably the real deal.
If he offers to make you a cup of coffee or even just comes to know when you will want one, he is likely interested in becoming a part of your daily routine.
Sometimes we all need something hot, strong, and steamy to keep us awake—and if he makes you a good coffee too, that’s a bonus!
24. He texts you to say hi
When we are in love with someone, it is natural to want to be talking to them often, even if we don’t have something specific to say!
If he is texting you just to say hi, it means he cares about you, and you are always on his mind. It is important to reciprocate this show of attention, so he knows you are just as interested in him as he is in you.
Not every man will just say hi out of the blue. Some guys, especially less confident guys, may be less direct and instead send you a funny meme, picture, or link to something that they think you might like. This often has the same intent as a message saying hi—to get your attention and begin a conversation!
25. He cooks dinner for you
What could be more romantic than a man cooking dinner for you? Even if it’s simple spaghetti with Bolognese sauce, the effort itself is what counts, and he is ready to go above and beyond to impress you.
Not only is it a chance to show off his culinary talents, but preparing and sharing a meal with a loved one is a surprisingly intimate experience.
There may also be some truth to the old cliche “good in the kitchen, good in the bedroom”. Being able to cook shows creativity, attention to detail, and appreciation of sensory pleasures—all traits as useful between the sheets as at the dinner table!
26. He lends you a helping hand
Whether you need to move your furniture or to take your pup to the vet, he knows where you need help and jumps in. He wouldn’t do this if he weren’t in love with you.
One of the most unmistakable signs he is deeply in love with you is that he would help you out with anything!
In a healthy relationship, both partners are happy to help each other out with favors without expecting anything in return. If only one partner is willing to sacrifice their time, the relationship is not as respectful as it should be.
27. He makes you laugh
If a guy loves you, he wants to see you happy. He will try to make you laugh and giggle on every occasion.
Different men will do this in different ways. Some may crack jokes, and others may tease you playfully.
One thing is sure—we all love the sound of a loved one’s laughter.
28. He cheers you up when you’re sad
One of the best things about being in a relationship is having a shoulder to cry on.
Is he around when you feel down? Does he try to cheer you up when you are sad? If the answer is ‘yes,’ it’s one of the top signs he loves you deeply.
A loving boyfriend wants nothing more than your happiness. Of all the signs he’s in love with you, this is one of the most important.A loving boyfriend wants nothing more than your happiness. Of all the signs he's in love with you, this is one of the most important. Click To Tweet
29. He notices your inner beauty
It is scientifically proven that men are mostly attracted—at least at first—by the visual.
However, it is not as simple as men simply being shallow! As time goes on and he grows to know you more, you will see that he appreciates your personality as much as—if not more than—your appearance.
Usually, you hear compliments about your looks, but your boyfriend compliments your personality. He sees your inner beauty, which can mean only one thing: he has deep feelings for you.
30. He is kind to you when he’s grumpy
It is easy for most people to be kind and generous when they are in high spirits. However, it becomes more difficult for most of us to maintain this when we are upset or stressed.
If a man makes sure to treat you well even when he is feeling down, this is a huge mark of respect.
Being able to put all the negative things aside is essential. If he had a bad day, but he’s still nice to you, that is love.
31. He leaves you surprises
Most guys love to treat the special lady in their life when they can.
Although there are birthdays and holidays when you will expect gifts and surprises from your boyfriend, receiving them out of the blue is one of the signs he loves you to look out for.
If he takes the time to surprise you with a box of chocolates or a bouquet delivered to your door, his feelings for you are pretty obvious.
32. He is nice to your family
Starting life with a new partner usually comes with extra obligations. It is not just your partner who will likely be taking a major role in your life, but your partner’s friends and family too!
While this can either be a great bonus or a difficult obstacle, a loving man will be dedicated enough to your relationship to do his best to get along with everyone.
Meeting the parents can be a real test for your relationship. If your boyfriend is nice to everybody and willing to spend time with your family, he is serious about you.
33. He helps to solve your problems
One of the greatest displays of love is to share the burden of your partner’s struggles. If your boyfriend is selfless enough to do this, this is one of the clearest signs of love.
Although men and women often respond to problems differently, showing a desire to support you in some way is a vital part of a happy relationship.
If he treats your problems like his own problems and helps you solve them in any way he can, his love for you is real.
34. He recognizes your needs
Everybody has their own individual needs, whether small or large, practical or emotional.
Did he pick up a box of your favorite cereal when you were shopping in a supermarket (the ones he finished at yours the other day)? When you don’t have to tell him what you need, he’s paying attention.
However, remembering without being told is not as important as being willing to accept and meet your needs.
35. He makes time for you
When he treats you like a priority rather than an option, this is one of the signs that he has strong feelings for you.
During the first stages of dating, it is likely that your dates will be rearranged to fit around other events in his schedule. Once you become more important to him he is likely to start arranging other events around you instead.
Did he cancel his friend’s invitation to go for a beer on Friday night and chose to watch a movie with you? Do you need any more proof that you mean the world to him?
36. He does things without being asked
Perhaps the most undeniable sign that he loves you deeply is that he wants to be the best man he can be for you by taking the initiative to help you.
He oiled up your squeaky door and fixed the flat tire of your bike without being asked. If he goes out of his way to make your life easier, you are important to him.
On the contrary, if you feel like your man has to be told repeatedly to do the most basic household tasks, you might need to have a word with him!
37. He calls you with no reason
You may be wondering how to know a guy loves you deeply rather than merely being interested in a casual relationship. If a guy calls you just to ask how your day was, rather than to make plans to meet up, this is one of the signs of emotional investment.
When we are apart from someone we love, we often want nothing more than to hear their voice!
When he calls you with no apparent reason, just to say good morning or to check if you are doing ok, he can’t stop thinking of you.
38. He respects your personal space
When you’re in love with someone, you often want to be close to them all of the time. I’m sure we don’t need to explain why most guys are all too eager to share physical touch with you when you want it!
No matter how deep your feelings are, there are days when you need some alone time, or you want to spend the evening with your girlfriends. He respects your personal space because he loves you in a non-selfish way.
A guy who can give you space—physical or emotional—when you need it yet still be there for you when needed is a guy to keep hold of!No matter how deep your feelings are, there are days when you need some alone time. Click To Tweet
39. He picks up your habits
A side-effect of trying new things and going along with your interests is that he may actually end up developing an interest in them himself!
He picked up your habit of watching Rick and Morty after you two got together, and he even started eating broccoli that he used to hate since he was a child. What else is love, if not that?
As well as hobbies, it is incredibly common to pick up mannerisms and small habits of people that you spend a lot of time around.
40. Everyone else knows he loves you
Other people usually notice when their close friend or relative is in love. If they talk about it, it means you are a part of his life, and he’s not hiding it from anybody.
Changes in someone’s love life are often apparent to people who come into contact with them.
Even if he hasn’t mentioned it—or even admitted it to himself yet—his friends and family may have noticed him showing any number of the signs on this list!
Your relationship is a unique bond where the two of you are growing together. Everyone shows love a little differently, so it is important to pay attention to the things that he does and the signs that he displays. If you ticked off most of these boxes, your boyfriend is truly and deeply in love with you.